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Trying to Keep up with Trends

With all the new social media apps, it’s no surprise that we get caught up in all the new “trends“.

For me, personally, I am always trying different makeup products or changing my skin care routine because of newtrends“.

A new trend that I am kind of obsessed with is decorating my house for every holiday, and searching Dollar Trees for the “trending” products.

As I was attempting a St. Patrick’s Day yarn wreath, and failing repeatedly, I asked myself “Why am I doing this?” I live in the middle of nowhere, who is going to see this wreath??

It was then that I realized that I was not making the wreath for fun, I was doing it because I saw someone else make one.

I took a step back and analyzed all the things I do that don’t bring me happiness.

So needless to say, I did not finish the wreath.

I realized I do love decorating my house for every holiday, but I don’t have to do everytrend” I see.

Life is already stressful enough, we need to stop letting social media add more stress to our lives.

Do what brings YOU happiness and skip the rest!

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Make Your Own Rules

Having a Special Needs child comes with its own set of difficulties. There is no rule book for how to raise a child with disabilities. Books about reaching children’s milestones do not apply to your child’s specific special needs.

Even learning about your child’s diagnosis does not help prepare you, because every disability is so different. For instance, Ciara has Cerebral Palsy and cannot walk or talk, but there are others with CP that can walk and talk normally. So finding the right information or help, can be exhausting.

I have learned that we have to make our own parenting rules and go by our own knowledge.

After 21 years, I am still learning about Ciara. I am still trying to figure out what I am doing and questioning if I am doing the right things for her.

I thought I had everything figured out and then..she became an adult! I thought getting her through school and puberty was my most difficult challenges. I was wrong. Now, I am learning how to transition her into adulthood and prepare a future for her. I feel as if her whole future depends on the decisions I make now for her.

There is no manual to tell us what to do to prepare our kids for the future, so we have to what we feel is best for our children.

On top of all the stress of raising a special needs child, there is always judgment and pressure coming from professionals. “What are you doing for her future?” “What is your next step?” The questions never stop coming! Seriously, I don’t know what I am doing with my life, then I have to tell them exact plans for my daughters future!

People never stop judging, you just have to get past all the questions and realize you are doing whats best for your child. People can make you feel like you are not doing enough for your child, but you are. You cannot completely exhaust yourself trying to be perfect, you just have to do what you can do.

There was a point in my life where I let Ciara’s disability control my whole life. Everything I did in my life was directed towards Ciara. I was was consumed in therapy appointments, Doctor appointments, special needs conferences, and lots of research.

I still do what needs to be done for her, I just don’t let it consume me. We have a life outside of her disability and we also have a nice balance of special needs activities. I feel she is happier now that I am not obsessed with her disability. She is not reminded constantly of her disability and it helps her to feel more normal.

People may judge me that I don’t have her in tons of therapies and Doctor appointments to consume our weeks, but I make the rules and do what is best for my family.

She still sees her Doctors when she needs to and I am still working on preparing for her future, but we are going to enjoy life in the process.

Make your own rules for your special needs child. Do what you think is best and forget about the judgments and questions. You know your child better than anybody, so you will make the best choices.

Don’t let your child’s disability consume you, enjoy life with your special needs child.

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2020 You Are Not My Friend

2020 seriously has me throwing the bird, no slash that, a double bird, while sticking my tongue out and stomping off!

Covid came creeping in like that creepy neighbor always knocking on your door and looking into your windows to see if you are home. Now, we are all hiding out in our homes, in fear that the Corona will soon get us.

I am literally so tired of being in my home. Cleaning, cooking, remote learning with a 14 year… A stinky 14 year old boy mind you. I get the pleasure of smelling toots and bad breathe all morning while helping him get his day started.

Why did I choose remote learning you may ask…well I was worried about him adjusting to the changes the school has made for the safety of the kids. Such as masks all day, 90 minute classes, and no socialization.

Now, you may ask, why not put your mask on and get back into the World. Well first off, I am not against masks, but it is Texas. We are in the hotter than Satan’s toenails part of summer and I am a sweater. By the time I take off that mask my nose is sweating down into my mouth 😣. Not too mention I am a bit dramatic and I feel like I am suffocating in the mask after a quick grocery store run.

Nothing is fun anymore. I use to love going shopping and browsing every item in the store, now its like supermarket sweep. I get what I need and get out.

When you have a special needs child, that already has breathing problems, you just don’t know how safe it is to take them out. Even with a mask, there is uncertainty!

I just want my life back! I miss socialization! I miss parties!!

I am a planner and I like to have everything planned out and this Covid is wrecking my world. Can we have Halloween? Will there be any Fall activities? What about Christmas and Thanksgiving? There is too much uncertainty, it is driving me crazy!

Not to mention all the hate and violence 2020 has brought into the World. The hate is the worst, people are fighting just to fight, in a time when we should all be coming together as a country.

Then they tell us there are murder hornets and suspicious Chinese seeds being sent to people. That is enough 2020!

2020 has me going on strike in my own home. I stare at trash and think “someone will eventually pick that up“. No such luck, when my strike ends a day later that wrapper is still there waiting.

2020 has brought health problems to my family members and Covid made it where I could not even be with them. Having to sit in the car while calling a nurse over and over again for an update on my parent, is not fun!

I think about last year at this time, we were getting ready to take a trip to Disney World. Now, I get excited just to go to a drive through Birthday Party!

If you have a suggestions on how I can keep my sanity in this difficult time, leave me a comment! Or let me know what you are doing to keep your sanity!

Please 2020 hurry up and go away!!

Here is to 2021, may the World get back to normal!