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Cerebral Palsy does not Define her

As most of you all know, my daughter Ciara has Cerebral Palsy, but that is not what defines her.

Cerebral Palsy is defined as “a condition marked by impaired muscle coordination (spastic paralysis) and/or other disabilities, typically caused by damage to the brain before or at birth.”

Because of her disability, she cannot walk out talk, but she does not let that stop her. There is so much more wonderful things about her other than her disability.

Here is a list of what makes Ciara so special and proof that cerebral Palsy does not define her.

She loves EVERYONE!

She has a special excitement for life.

She takes pride in everything she does.

She loves her job and never complains.

She enjoys it when she is given responsibilities or chores, so she can prove she can do it.

She loves to cook!!

She has the biggest heart and really does care about everyone she knows.

She worries about her friends and prays for them.

She is obsessed with music, her favorite singer is George Straight.

She listens to everything she hears and absorbs every word like a sponge. She can know a song after only one time of listening to it.

She knows and understands her disability.

She knows how to work her disability and is quick to tell people “I am handicapped“, as a rebuttal.

She is a sensitive soul and can get her feelings hurt easily.

She sometimes feels sadness because of her disability.

She wishes she could do what others her age can do.

She longs to be a mother.

Her maturity level is that of a 12 year old.

She has a special innocence about her.

She hates her hands and feet, because they don’t do what she wants them to do.

She feels embarrassment from her disability, such as drooling, having an accident or because of the lack of hand control.

Her “best friends” are people who treat her like a regular human being.

She doesn’t like being spoken to like a “baby”.

She has an “attitude“.

She startles easily.

She can read and communicate via messenger.

If you are one of her “best friends”, she will text you every day.

She loves attention.

She tries her best at every single thing she does.

She always wants to help others.

She loves sweets!

She loves coffee!

She smiles through the pain.

She struggles every day but remains happy.

She loves Disney and is saving her money to go to Disney land.

She has an old soul and enjoys watching old murder mysteries.

She loves going to the lake and camping.

She gets so excited when she learns something new or masters a new goal.

She forgives but she doesn’t forget.

She loves the Lord and looks forward to the day she will “walk” with Jesus.

She is my hero.

She has so many people that love and adore her.

She has a mom that will advocate for her everyday of her life.

Of course, there is so much more I could share about my sweet girl, the list could go on and on.

CP may affect her body, but it can never take away her beautiful mind and heart.

I encourage you to get to know people with disabilities and don’t let their diagnosis define them.

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Let Me Introduce Myself

Since I have quite a few new followers, I have decided to reintroduce myself.

I am Jennifer, the mother of two incredible kids and wife to an amazing husband.

My husband and I met as teenagers and have managed to stay together over 20 years now. It has definitely been a long, bumpy road, but we have grown stronger as we have grown older.

My daughter, Ciara, is 22 and has Cerebral Palsy. She cannot walk or talk, but she is the strongest person I know and teaches me each every day how to live life to the fullest and enjoy every minute of life.

I was a “teen mom“, I gave birth to Ciara at 15. I have come a long way as a mother. The beginning of motherhood was a struggle, especially with a special needs child, but I have learned so much and thrive to help and comfort other special needs moms.

My son, Leland, is your typical teenager, full of teenage attitude. He can be the sweetest little mama’s boy and he is constantly making me laugh.

I am a minimalist mom on a budget, and I LOVE the Dollar Tree.

My life is chaos, my house is not “magazine worthy“, and nothing about my life is “perfect“.

I am a down-home country girl that loves Jesus, family, friends and my dogs.

I am a proud plus size woman, and I am obsessed with makeup and clothes.

I love planning events, baking and crafting, while on a budget. I really enjoy finding new ways to repurpose or to recreate things that I typically cannot afford.

And lastly, I love writing! I enjoy sharing with the world my ideas and ADVICE and I appreciate each and every one of my followers.

I hope to inspire, give support and encourage all of my readers.

Thank you for following my Perfectly Imperfect Plus Life!

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My Perfect Imperfect Life

I started perfectly imperfect plus life blog a few years ago, as kind of a hobby. To inspire other plus size women to embrace their natural beauty and promote self love.

I have decided I want to take my blog more serious and get more content out there for all of you.

Since I am a minimalist mom on a budget, I’ve decided to share my budget friendly crafts and Diys.

My life isn’t perfect, I don’t have a perfect house, perfect kids, perfect husband and we barely scrape by every month financially. But I hope I can inspire others to love their imperfect lives.

Since being a mom is a big part of my life, I will be sharing mom life hacks and resources for other special needs mom’s out there.

My only mission is to inspire! Inspire you to love yourself, inspire you to know your worth.

I am super excited to share more content with you all and I’m super thankful for all of my followers.

Thank you for following perfectly imperfect plus life. Don’t forget to follow me on Facebook for life updates.

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Putting My Dreams on Hold

When I was young, I always dreamed of being a writer.

I would write short stories. Mostly horror since Stephen King and R.L Stine were my favorite Authors.

At Fifteen, my dreams took a shift. I was blessed with an amazing little angel, but because of a medical mistake, my daughter suffered from seizures. Which led my daughter to being diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy.

I soon realized that my life was going to be consumed with a lot of therapy and doctor appointments.

My mom insisted I go back to school and graduate high school. My sweet mom took care of Ciara while I attended high school, graduated, and while I attended college.

I was unable to finish College due to Ciara’s needs getting more demanding.

After years of therapy appointments, doctor appointments, SSI meetings, fighting medicaid and her daily care, I felt depressed.

I did what I had to do but never went above and beyond for Ciara.

Ciara grew closer and closer to my mom because my mom gave her the attention she craved.

I was hurt that Ciara loved her more and couldn’t figure out why she didn’t love me as much as my mom.

After many prayers, God opened my eyes!

I realized, Ciara didn’t ask to be born to a single, Fifteen year old mom, and she sure didn’t ask for a medical mistake to take place that led her to having to struggle for the rest of her life.

I sat back and saw how strong my daughter is. I saw the impact she has on others in her life. I saw that my girl has a purpose in life, greater than I can ever imagine, and I was very blessed to be a part of her journey.

Ciara has the kindest heart, and the best outlook on life. She warms people’s hearts with her amazing smile. I am very lucky to have her call me mom.

Now, I live for her, to help make all her dreams come true, and to make sure she always has a reason to smile.

Of course, I still live my own life. I go out with friends, not as much as I would like, but life gets in the way of that.

I also make sure my son always knows that I love him. I try to spend extra time with my son and husband, so they don’t feel like my whole life is about Ciara.

Ciara is my best friend, and I can’t imagine my life without her. I am so proud of the young lady she has become. Ciara and I are a team so, when she succeeds, so do I!

Of course, I haven’t given up my dreams of writing. I have my blog, and I hope to one day, write a book about Ciara. My dreams are just on hold, just until God let’s me know it’s time.

Of course, I’m not saying you have to give up your dreams, if you have a special needs child. I know a lot of very strong moms that do it all. Putting my dreams on hold, was just what I felt was best for my child.

Don’t give up on your dreams, just put them on hold!