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Let Me Introduce Myself

Since I have quite a few new followers, I have decided to reintroduce myself.

I am Jennifer, the mother of two incredible kids and wife to an amazing husband.

My husband and I met as teenagers and have managed to stay together over 20 years now. It has definitely been a long, bumpy road, but we have grown stronger as we have grown older.

My daughter, Ciara, is 22 and has Cerebral Palsy. She cannot walk or talk, but she is the strongest person I know and teaches me each every day how to live life to the fullest and enjoy every minute of life.

I was a “teen mom“, I gave birth to Ciara at 15. I have come a long way as a mother. The beginning of motherhood was a struggle, especially with a special needs child, but I have learned so much and thrive to help and comfort other special needs moms.

My son, Leland, is your typical teenager, full of teenage attitude. He can be the sweetest little mama’s boy and he is constantly making me laugh.

I am a minimalist mom on a budget, and I LOVE the Dollar Tree.

My life is chaos, my house is not “magazine worthy“, and nothing about my life is “perfect“.

I am a down-home country girl that loves Jesus, family, friends and my dogs.

I am a proud plus size woman, and I am obsessed with makeup and clothes.

I love planning events, baking and crafting, while on a budget. I really enjoy finding new ways to repurpose or to recreate things that I typically cannot afford.

And lastly, I love writing! I enjoy sharing with the world my ideas and ADVICE and I appreciate each and every one of my followers.

I hope to inspire, give support and encourage all of my readers.

Thank you for following my Perfectly Imperfect Plus Life!

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I Support Self Love

It has come to my attention that some may think that I don’t support weight loss or weight loss surgeries.

I support self love and I would love to see every woman, big or small, to love yourselves no matter their size.

I struggle as a plus size woman to love myself, but I also know that women that are not plus size, struggle with insecurities as well.

If you don’t love yourself as a bigger woman, you won’t love yourself as a skinnier version.

In all honesty, I would most likely have the gastric sleeve (if I could afford it). Not for vanity purposes, but to feel more comfortable in my own body.

Do I think all medical problems disappear after weightloss?? Nope, I know for a fact that some health problems follow you after weight loss.

That being said, I do think that being overweight comes with its own set of problems. Such as back and joint pain from carrying that extra weight. And extra weight does make it harder to get around.

So I absolutely support weight loss and weight loss surgeries for better health.

I personally don’t think people should depend on weight loss surgeries to help them feel better about the way they look. If you don’t love yourself, the way you are, then no amount of surgeries will help you to love yourself more.

I personally want to love myself 100% the way I am and I don’t want to think of weight loss as a way to feel prettier or more attractive.

I still struggle with my insecurities and I am learning to love myself but I know I am not quite there yet. I do know that if I lose 100 pounds, I will still face insecurities, until I truly love myself the way I am.

So in conclusion, I support weight loss and weight loss surgeries, my only hope is that women will see their true beauty before weight loss and do it for the right reasons. Remember, you will not love yourself after weightloss if you do not love yourself before.

Stay Beautiful my friends!

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10 Truths About Me

Here lately it has occurred to me that most people in my life do not know the real me.

I am not fake or two faced, but I do hide parts of me that I feel people would not like.

After the current year we all faced and the uncertainty of how long we all will be on this Earth, I have decided I want people to know ME.

I have decided that being the real me and having people that accept the real me is more important than trying to be someone I am not so that people like me.

I have decided to lay it all out there and share 10 truths about me.

I smoke cigarettes

Yes, I have a disgusting habit that I cannot seem to kick. I hide it from most people because I don’t want people knowing that I am so weak to have an addiction to nicotine. I don’t plan on smoking for the rest of my life and I actually hate that I am a smoker, but that doesn’t make me a bad person.

I Cuss

Yes, I am guilty of using “bad” words to express myself. I don’t like to make a habit of cussing but I can’t say that they never escape my mouth.

I Envy Others

Nobody ever wants to admit that they are envious of other people, but I am guilty of feeling envy towards other people. I want what others have all the time.

I am the obnoxious drunk

I may not drink often, but when I do I become loud and annoying. People tend to avoid me after a few drinks. I also have been known for trying to start fights after a few beers, that is why I avoid beer and stick with wine.

I have depression and anxiety

This one is not really a secret, I talk about my anxiety and depression frequently. People may not know that some days I find it hard to get out of bed and find myself crying for no apparent reason.

I feel like a failure most of the time

This probably goes with the anxiety and depression but I struggle with feeling like a failure in my life. I feel I let my family down and that at my age I should be more successful.

I want to be a successful writer

Ever since I was a little girl, I have loved writing. I use to write short stories in my free time. My dream is to be a successful writer and at least have one published book.

I have a big heart

I may not show my feelings very well, but I care so much for people. My heart breaks when I see people suffering or sad.

I am very emotional

I try not to let people know this, but I am a very sensitive person. I get my feelings hurt very easy. I have a hard time with expressing my feelings to others, so most of the time I don’t defend myself (unless I am drinking).

I am not a fancy person

So I love dressing up and pretending to be fancy, but deep down I am just a down home country girl. I grew up in the country with not a lot of money and now I raise my family in the country with still not a lot of money. Fancy places make me uncomfortable and I am more at home at a whole in the wall country cafe. I am married to the biggest redneck in Lorena and wouldn’t have it any other way.

I hope you enjoyed learning the 10 truths about me.

Always remember to be yourself and don’t try to be what you think others want you to be.

I have tried for years to be someone I am not and hide what I didn’t want others to know, but you will find life if so more enjoyable when you accept who you really are and embrace it.

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Love your Body

It has occurred to me that I have lost sight of why I started this blog, to try to open the eyes of the world that big women are beautiful! Also, for big women to see their true beauty while I also learn to love my body the way it is.

I still love blogging about being a mom and family life, but I want to focus back on my mission, for people to accept plus size people.

I have a lot to say on this topic so I may be a bit scattered brained, but bare with me.

I can honestly say that I love being a plus size woman. Am I happy with my body 100% of the time…no. I would love to lose about 50 pounds and get in better shape so that I can take better care of my my disabled daughter. Will I ever be skinny?? No. Nor do I care about being skinny. Not that there is anything wrong with being skinny, I was just not meant to be a smaller woman.

I have always been on the chunky side, since I was a child. I was a very active kid , I played sports and took dance. I ate what every other kid was eating, but I gained weight more than the other kids.

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When I was in 5th grade, kids at school really started making fun of my weight. I was then aware that I was different, and of coarse different always has to be bad, right?? So, I started countless diets, battled depression, and even hated going to school.

As a child, I should not have had to deal with body image issues, no child should!

God made us all different, we are not meant to all be the same size and weight.

People are having weight loss surgeries and going on extreme diets, so that they can fit in with society. Now, I know some people have to lose weight because of health problems, do skinny people not have the same health problems??

My mom had gastric bypass years ago because her Doctor said losing the weight would make all her health problems disappear, my words, but same meaning. She lost the weight, but still has heart problems and high blood pressure.

I am done trying to fit in with society, yes I want to be healthy and I CAN be healthy and plus size. I am meant to have curves and junk in my trunk and I am gonna own it!

This message is not just for plus size women. Society puts an unrealistic standard on what a woman should look like. Some of you may have body image issues and not be overweight.

This is for all of you woman reading this. Love your bodies the way they are meant to be, own and flaunt it! Show the World we come in all shapes and sizes and ALL sizes are beautiful!