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Dealing with Grief

My family recently lost two amazing people due to Covid-19.

In August we learned that my husband’s cousin and her husband were being admitted to the hospital because of covid complications.

Not even a month later they both were taken away from us.

The pain was unreal, like we were living a nightmare.

Anger set in and the whys. Why did they have to die? Why did this virus have to take them away from us?

I cried for days, until I learned to deal with my grief.

I sat and thought about how blessed I was to have had them both in my life for 20 years.

I thought about all the special memories I was lucky enough to get to share with them.

Most importantly I thought about all the wonderful things this amazing couple taught me.

I would like to share what I learned having these incredible people in my life.

Susie taught me to let the people I love know how much I love them. Susie was the most loving person I have ever met. She would let everyone know how much she loved them and how special they were to her.

Terry taught me unconditional love for your spouse. He loved Susie so much and stood by her side through thick and thin.

They both taught me to be spontaneous and to live life to the fullest. They always had so much fun, no matter what they were doing.

Susie taught me to help others in need and to be kind to everyone. Susie would help anyone in need and she could have hour long conversations with people she didn’t even know.

They both taught me to be a better person and a better Christian.

I am a better person having known them and I am beyond blessed to get to say they loved and cared about me.

I am grateful for every minute I got to share with them and all the laughter we once shared.

The sadness is still there but I know they are together in Heaven, rejoicing with the Lord.

The pain doesn’t just go away, but celebrating their lives and remembering all they passed on to me and my family, has helped me through the grieving stage.

I would like to honor them by letting you all know that COVID-19 IS REAL! If you don’t believe in getting vaccinated, please don’t judge people who do choose to get vaccinated. Please don’t hinder people’s choice in getting the vaccination.

Think of other’s feelings that have lost loved ones to this senseless virus before you say hurtful things about the vaccine or wearing masks.

Stay safe out there, and pray for the ones fighting this virus and the ones dealing with the grief of losing their loved ones.

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My Dream Date Nights

Valentine’s is coming up and we are all thinking about what activities we can do with our loved one.

I don’t know about you but I like unique date nights, not just movies or going to the same old restaurant.

If you are wanting to do something different this year, I have a list of my dream date nights.

Escape Room

If you haven’t been to an escape room, you have to try it. It is so much fun. You could even get with other couples and make it even more fun.

The Magic Time Machine

So this unique restaurant is in the Dallas area and I want to try it out so bad! They have different themed rooms to add some fun to your date night.

Painting with a Twist

I love painting with a twist! I haven’t been able to experience the couples paint so that is definitely on my date list.

Ghost Hunting

Okay, so I know this is a little bit on the weird side, but it’s definitely something I want to do for a spooky date night.

Drive in Theater

I love the drive in movies! We only have one in Central Texas and it’s actually a 45 minute drive there, but it’s always so much fun. You can cuddle up in the back of your vehicle and watch a movie, and enjoy your own snacks.

The Zoo

If you can’t get a sitter on valentine’s, you can still get out of the house and enjoy a family date at the Zoo. Bring a picnic or you can enjoy the expensive food there.

These are just some of my top dream date nights, I could go on and on about places I want to try. The hard part is getting the husband on board.

Valentine’s should be just about celebrating your love for one another, not how much you spend. Find unique things to do with each other and just enjoy your time together.

Whether it be going on a lavish date night or just sitting at home with a glass of wine, just be thankful you have each other.

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20 Years Strong

Today my husband and I celebrate twenty years together!

On December 16, 2000, a young single mother decided to take a chance with a brave young man.

It has been a very bumpy road and has not been easy.

We have endured many break ups and had to find our way back to each other.

It didn’t help that we were hardheaded teenagers and were both use to getting our way.

Also, my husband had to adapt to being with a single mom and having a child in the mix. He had to step up as a step dad at 17 years old.

After twenty years I finally feel as if we have found balance in our relationship.

It’s still hard and we are not perfect, but we’re learning from our mistakes.

Marriage is hard and it’s a struggle everyday, but I have some tips I would like to share that has helped us over the last 20 years.

Put Your Pride Aside

That dang pride can ruin a relationship. Sometimes you just have to put that pride aside and know when your wrong.

Apologize

Why is it so hard to say “I’m sorry“? I guess it goes with putting that pride aside, but learning to say “I’m sorry”, helps your partner know you care about resolving the issues.

Listen To Each Other

One of the biggest problems for us was we never listened to each other’s concerns. We would jump to conclusions or blow up instead of just listening to each other’s issues.

Communication

Communication is key in a relationship. It goes with listening to each other. I am all about voicing my opinions and problems, while my husband bottles it up. We all know the problem with bottling up your problems, you eventually blow up! So he still doesn’t tell me All his feelings like I do, but he communicates more instead of holding it all in.

It’s Okay To Be Different

One of our biggest struggles as a couple was we would fight over our differences. When we first started dating, we had the same interests. As we grew up, our interests changed. We have learned to accept our differences. He accepts that I don’t like fishing and I accept he doesn’t love watching horror movies all the time like I do.

It’s Okay To Do Things Apart

This kind of goes with having differences. We always thought we had to do everything together. So one of us would be miserable and it would lead to fighting. We now know it’s okay to have different interests and we don’t have to always be together. He can go fishing and hunting while I go shopping or get my hair done.

Make Time For Each Other

So this one is hard for us and we are still working on this. We have let our kids take over our lives. Finding alone time is hard! It’s so important to find time for each other. This weekend my husband and I are going to enjoy a weekend together, without kids, for the first time in years!

Support Each Other

A hard part in any relationship is supporting each other’s decisions. We always try to support each other. He supports my blogging and any other projects I have going and I support him. Of coarse we always communicate our choices but we come together and support each other in the end.

Have Fun

One of my biggest regrets is that we ruined moments that should have been fun and memorable by stressing and fighting. Life gets pretty stressful with a special needs child, but we have adapted to our life. We find ways to get through the stress and just have fun.

Forgive

Last but not least, learn to forgive each other. Every relationship is going to have problems. We have both said and done things we now regret but we have learned to forgive each other for all the bad moments in our relationship. Holding on to anger will only lead to resentment. Learn to forgive, so your relationship can grow stronger.

Thank you for letting me share my relationship tips with you!

I am sure our relationship will have more struggles and hardships, but I look forward to another twenty years with my best friend!