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Love your Body

It has occurred to me that I have lost sight of why I started this blog, to try to open the eyes of the world that big women are beautiful! Also, for big women to see their true beauty while I also learn to love my body the way it is.

I still love blogging about being a mom and family life, but I want to focus back on my mission, for people to accept plus size people.

I have a lot to say on this topic so I may be a bit scattered brained, but bare with me.

I can honestly say that I love being a plus size woman. Am I happy with my body 100% of the time…no. I would love to lose about 50 pounds and get in better shape so that I can take better care of my my disabled daughter. Will I ever be skinny?? No. Nor do I care about being skinny. Not that there is anything wrong with being skinny, I was just not meant to be a smaller woman.

I have always been on the chunky side, since I was a child. I was a very active kid , I played sports and took dance. I ate what every other kid was eating, but I gained weight more than the other kids.

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When I was in 5th grade, kids at school really started making fun of my weight. I was then aware that I was different, and of coarse different always has to be bad, right?? So, I started countless diets, battled depression, and even hated going to school.

As a child, I should not have had to deal with body image issues, no child should!

God made us all different, we are not meant to all be the same size and weight.

People are having weight loss surgeries and going on extreme diets, so that they can fit in with society. Now, I know some people have to lose weight because of health problems, do skinny people not have the same health problems??

My mom had gastric bypass years ago because her Doctor said losing the weight would make all her health problems disappear, my words, but same meaning. She lost the weight, but still has heart problems and high blood pressure.

I am done trying to fit in with society, yes I want to be healthy and I CAN be healthy and plus size. I am meant to have curves and junk in my trunk and I am gonna own it!

This message is not just for plus size women. Society puts an unrealistic standard on what a woman should look like. Some of you may have body image issues and not be overweight.

This is for all of you woman reading this. Love your bodies the way they are meant to be, own and flaunt it! Show the World we come in all shapes and sizes and ALL sizes are beautiful!

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Just Be YOU

It has recently occurred to me that I worry about what others think of me WAY TOO MUCH! A part of loving yourself is letting go of what you think other people want you to be and just BE YOU!

Social media has many good aspect, finding long lost friends and getting to share your life with others. Social media also lets you into other people’s lives, 24/7. You get to see others lives that may be a bit more spontaneous or fabulous than your own. You question yourself and think…. should I be like them??

For instance, I have seen post about restaurants that I have never even heard of. My family and I usually go to the same ole same restaurants, so I think we are so boring. We then try these restaurants and find that we DO NOT fit in or the food is just not what we are in to. Again I think there must be something wrong with us because everybody else loved these places.

It is that way of thinking that makes us feel we are never good enough and little by little we start to hate ourselves and our lives. But we are not all supposed to be the same. God made us all different for a reason. If he expected us all to be the same we would all just be carbon copies, but he made each and everyone of us different. With different opinions, different personalities and different tastes.

Of coarse it is not just social media that makes us feel we should not be ourselves. Certain people will make you feel that you are just not good enough.

I am having to realize that some people will just not like me, for me. I would like to think I am a nice person, that genially cares for others. I may come across as fake or two faced but I really do not try to be. That is just me.  Now I may act different with people that I am really close with but that is because my anxiety does not affect the way I act with those people. My anxiety makes me question every word I speak with people that I am not that close with and I may seem stand offish at times, just because I am afraid I will say the wrong thing. I hate to offend others and will go out of my way not to hurt other people’s feelings. Now that does not mean I don’t get mad at people.  I am guilty of having a temper. I am not good at hiding my emotions, so if you make me mad, you will most likely know that I am upset. I especially don’t hide my feelings when it comes to my kids.

With that said, I have gone out of my way to please others and act a certain way to make them like me.  I am finally realizing that no matter how I change myself they will never like me.  I just need to be myself and the right people will be in my life for who I am.

I am on this journey of self love for myself, not for others to like me. I really encourage you to stop being what you think other people want you to be and just be you! You are enough just the way you are and so am I!