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New Year, New Me

Every year at the end of the one year and the beginning of a new one, we see everyone making their New Years Resolutions. To lose weight, get their finances in order or to find their soul mate.

I personally hate resolutions, it puts so much pressure on me to strive to succeed in the coming year. So when I do not achieve my goals, I feel like a total loser.

For 2020 I will not be joining a new gym or buying the latest weight loss products, I simply choose a better me for 2020.

Here is my list of my not so resolutions for the new year.

  • I will love myself no matter my size.
  •  I will value my time and have more ME time
  •  I will stop being a people pleaser and put myself first.
  •  I will not change who I am for others to like me.
  •  I will appreciate the friends that I have and spend more time with them.
  •  I will balance being a mother and wife without losing myself in the process.
  •  I will stress less and enjoy life more.
  •  I will learn to love myself unconditionally, mind, body and soul.

This year I hope to find who I really am, not what others want me to be. I will be selfish and think of myself a little more. The most important of them all is I hope by the time 2020 comes to an end, that I can truly say I love everything about myself, and can help others to see their beauty as well.

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Acts of Kindness

Christmas is the time of year for giving. Unfortunately, we get so wrapped up in the wants and needs of our kids, that we forget to give to others in need.

Christmas can be a very hard time for some. Whether it is not having enough money to have Christmas, memories of a loved one lost at Christmas time or being alone for Christmas.

So I think it is important to remember those that are suffering through the holiday time. Just one act of kindness towards another can make this holiday so much better for someone.

*Send a Christmas Card

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With all the technology, we tend to forget we can still use the Post Office and send a card. It is so much easier to send a mass “MERRY CHRISTMAS” on social media, but it touches the heart more to actually receive a card. I try to send a Christmas card out every year with pictures of my family, but I too have been guilty of not sending Christmas cards. I received one card this year and let me tell you, it meant so much to open that card. To know that someone thought of me and my family enough to send a card, that is priceless.

*Box of Treats

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Sometimes the sweetest gesture is SWEETS. If you are going to be doing Christmas baking anyways, why not box some up and give to others. I personally like to make Christmas candy and package them up for my neighbors, and I look forward to the treats I get from them as well. Another sweet gesture is wrapping up some Christmas cookies for your local Post Man and putting them in the mailbox for them to retrieve.

* Donations

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There are so many families that won’t be able to have Christmas this year because they cannot afford it. I know that my husband and I have struggled in the past to make ends meet at Christmas and would have loved the help. So donating to local charities or even finding a family in need that you can help, can make some little kids Christmas a lot better.

* Let Someone know You are Thinking of Them

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If you know of someone struggling this Holiday season, just let them know you are thinking of them. Sometimes that smallest gesture can bring them out of a hole they have fallen in at Christmas.

* Just be nice

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Sounds simple enough, right? Well unfortunately there are many that make Christmas time a nightmare. I get it, we are all stressed, but spread a little holiday cheer instead of stealing Christmas joy like the Grinch. If I am a grouch and hate that I have to be last minute shopping, I will at least give you a smile and a Merry Christmas when you ram my basket. Even if I want to throat punch you.

* Visit a Nursing Home or Hospital

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There are so many elderly people in nursing homes that may not have anybody visit them on Christmas. Just a simple Christmas card and a Merry Christmas will lift their spirits and show them that someone does care about them. There is also so many in hospitals this time of year, so the same can apply to them. They may need some holiday joy to lift their spirits.

There are so many things you can do at Christmas to spread some love around. These are just a few things, the list goes on and on.

Just remember Christmas is about giving, not just to your kids and close family. It is supposed to be a time we all share with one another and show love towards one another. 

Merry Christmas and God Bless!

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Dealing with Holiday Anxiety

Christmas is really the most magical and beautiful time of year. It is also the most stressful. Between finding those must have gifts, crowds everywhere and juggling all the Christmas parties and activities. It can be a bit too much for those of us who suffer from Anxiety, heck I think it can be overwhelming for those who don’t suffer from Anxiety.

This year I have struggled to find my Holiday enthusiasm, and I Love Christmas time! I love the glowing lights everywhere, the ambiance of Christmas, and the way Christmas makes you feel like a kid again. But unfortunately I am not a kid anymore, and Christmas has become a stress overload.

I do not want to start hating Christmas because of the stress and anxiety of the crowds, money being spent and the amount of things spinning around me. I want to really enjoy this time of year with my family.

So I have compiled a list of some Holiday de-stressers.

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*Watch A Christmas Movie

I love sitting by a fire, with some coffee watching a Christmas movie. Okay, lets be realistic, I live in Texas and most days it is not cold enough for a fire and I am usually out of coffee. So I may not have that perfect setting while watching a nice Christmas movie, but I still like to snuggle in bed and find a great heart warming movie to watch. Find those types of Christmas movies that pull at those heart strings, you know where you sit back and think “well, I am so blessed”. I am not a fan of those love story Christmas movies, but hey to each their own, if that’s what you like. I LOVE the magical movies, you know with SANTA or even a hilarious Christmas comedy. So just sit back, relax and watch a Christmas movie.

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* Go look at Christmas Lights

Me and my family love getting in the car with some hot chocolate and driving around town looking at all the Christmas lights. When the kids were younger we could decorate the car with Christmas lights and tell the kids they were going on a Polar Express adventure. It sounds so magical don’t it? Well it usually ended with the dreaded “I’m Bored” and spilt hot chocolate all over the Polar Express. These days I do not put the added stress into it. We still get our hot chocolate but we just take it easy and just drive.

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*Bake Something

Okay so this is a little contradictory. Baking can be added stress, well for me anyway. First, I am terrible at cookies but I love to bake them, so getting them right can be a little stressful. Then you got that horrible mess you left behind, you know like flour on the ceiling and stuff. But every year I cannot wait to find recipes and get in that kitchen, There is just something about Christmas that makes me wanna be like little Mrs. Claus. If you hate baking, don’t do it, but if you do like baking get in that kitchen and whip up some Christmas treats, and leave the mess for another day.

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*Remember the Reason for the Season

I think we all get so wrapped up in the buying and what we all think we HAVE to do at Christmas, we forget the reason we are celebrating. Sometimes it is nice to just sit back and remember why we celebrate this holiday and how we can be better for HIM. Which brings me to my next de-stresser.

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*Go to Church

I seriously need to take my own advice on this one. I have let this crazy world get in between me and my Christianity and find that I make excuses not to go to Church. Realistically Church is the ultimate de-stresser. When I go I can feel the stress leave me and a feeling of hope enters. Not too mention that at Christmas time there is so much beautiful music and wonderful activities for your family. Even if you do not have a Church, find one and just go to one in your town. Believe me you will be welcomed with open arms.

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*Enjoy your Family and Friends

I so often forget why I go through all this mayhem at Christmas time. I do it for those two beautiful creatures I made and that big, burly man I married. Every stress filled moment is for their happiness, but I know that a stressed out mom does not make them happy. So I put that to do list down and spend quality time with them. Build a Gingerbread house together or just share some of those Christmas treats you baked with them and watch a movie together. Just remember why you do what you do and enjoy all the small things about Christmas time.

I hope some of these Holiday de- stressers help you this Christmas season.

Just remember it all goes by so fast, so enjoy every second with your loved ones.

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MERRY CHRISTMAS FROM MY FAMILY TO YOURS!

 

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I am Thankful for the Mess

Here lately I have been in a bit of a mom funk. You know where you feel as if your life is defined by that pile of dirty laundry or that sink full of dishes. It feels as if my life is overcome by a house that needs cleaning everyday and people need to be fed everyday. The mom funk can consume you and make you feel like curling up in a ball in bed and crying, until the kids or husband need something.

So as I sat wondering if there was more to life than this mess I have to clean everyday, and I find myself Thankful for this mess of a life. I think about a life without this mess. A life without my kids and my husband. That life seemed very sad and lonely. So this Thanksgiving here is what I am thankful for in my life.

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*I am Thankful for the laundry

I am thankful for the clothes I have to wash each and everyday, because that means that I can provide clean clothes for my family to wear.

 

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*I am Thankful for the house I get to clean

I am Thankful to have a home that I can keep clean for my family. Even if that means sweeping, mopping and cleaning nasty toilets.

 

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*I am Thankful for the meals I get to cook

I am Thankful my family does not have to go without food and I have the opportunity to cook for them, even if they do complain.

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*I am Thankful I am a mom

I am so Thankful I get to be a mom. Even if it means non stop Doctor Appointments, School Meetings, bath times and being a mom taxi. I love being a mom! I cannot imagine my life without my little mess makers.

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*I am Thankful for my Husband

I am Thankful that my husband gets up everyday and goes to work to provide for us, even if he doesn’t seem to know where the laundry room is or how a dishwasher works.

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*I am Thankful for me

I am Thankful that I find the strength everyday to get up and face life head on. I may not always want to, but I do what I gotta do each and every day.

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Of coarse there is so much more I am Thankful for in my life, but these are my blessings in life I may take for granted.

Be Thankful for the messes in your life. 

 

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Suicide Awareness

Suicide. The topic of suicide can be a hard one to talk about. Especially if your family has had to endure the pain of losing a loved one from taking their own life.

At sixteen my older brother took his own life. I was five at the time and did not even really understand what had happened to my brother. As I got older and began asking my mom questions about Justin, she explained that he was really sad and he could not handle it anymore. I could never understand how he could have been that sad. I couldn’t understand why he would leave me and why he didn’t love me enough to stay on this Earth to be my big brother. I didn’t understand, until I started facing my own anxiety and depression.

When I was a child my dad was a very abusive alcoholic. Not always physically abusive, but mentally abusive. I dreaded the nights he was not home right after work, because I knew he was a the beer joint getting  angry drunk.

He would keep my mom and I up all night fighting with us or questioning our love for him. There were nights we had to stay at a hotel, just to get some peace from him. I spent a lot of my childhood scared and exhausted from the fighting.

As I became a teenager, I became more angry with him and would fight back. That just added more stress to the situation. I became so tired of life. Being a teenager didn’t help either because I was raging with hormones on top of being depressed and angry. One night I was so fed up with the yelling and screaming and attempted suicide. I just could not stand the thought of another day on this Earth with him as my father and the problems I was facing in school.

In anger I took a handful of my mom’s blood pressure bills. My mom found me with the pills and immediately gave me ipecac (a syrup that makes you throw up your entire stomach). It was not pleasant at all. I was so mad that she couldn’t just let me go. My mom saved my life.

After that my mom got me the help I needed and depression medication. Things didn’t get better with my dad until I finally moved out at 18, but I learned to deal with my emotions a little better.

I felt so selfish to do that to my mom. She has always been my rock and tried to give me the best life she could. Now as a mother I could not even imagine the heart break of losing my son to suicide and then my daughter trying to go the same way.

Depression can make you feel like the whole world would be better off without you, but that is NOT true. You leave the people that love you behind to mourn you and blame their self for not doing enough to help.

I always wish I could have helped my brother but his depression was silent. He didn’t tell anybody the way he felt inside. Maybe if I had been older I could have seen the signs of his depression, but we will never know the maybes or what ifs. I just hope I can spread awareness for this disease and suicide prevention.

If you are suffering from depression, there are treatments for depression so don’t be ashamed to get help. There are more people than you know going through the same things as you. Reach out to your loved ones, believe me when I say they would rather you come to them for help than to have to go to your funeral.

If you are just going through a hard time right now and just cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel, it WILL get better! Hard times come and go in life but it does get better.

I encourage to read the signs of depression and reach out to your loved ones that might be dealing with more than you know. 

In loving memory of my Big Brother Justin Hiller. He is missed everyday.

 

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My Disney Experience

My family and I recently took a trip to Disney World for my daughter’s graduation gift. We are not one of those families that are able to go yearly. We had to save for a whole year and still had to take donations from friends and family. So to say this was BIG deal for my family is an understatement.

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I am sure we could have saved money by not staying at a resort but I wanted my daughter to have the full experience she dreamed of , since she worked so hard to graduate high school. As some of you may know, my daughter has Cerebral Palsy, so school wasn’t always easy for her, but she pushed through so she could see MICKEY MOUSE. We stayed at the Art of Animation Resort and spent three days at the parks, Hollywood Studios, Magic Kingdom and Animal Kingdom.

If you would have asked me right after we made it back home if it was worth it, I probably would have said NO. I suffer from anxiety so I wanted everything to be perfect. I researched and planned for months and I still did not learn or prepare for everything at Disney World. So when we left I felt like a failure to my family because everything did not go as planned. I knew we could not make another trip for a long time or ever, so I really wanted my family to see and do everything they wanted to. That was my first mistake.

Now that it has been over a month since we went to Disney World, I sit back and remember the fun we had and the memories we made. So yes it was worth it! I would like to share some tips on Disney World if you plan on making a trip to Florida. Maybe you will not make the same mistakes I made.

Use Disability Access Service if you have a special needs person

Upon arriving to Disney I thought I did all my research on handicapped accessibility but I was wrong. I had read that people in wheelchairs would go through a separate line to get on rides, so assumed we did not need the DAS. The DAS tool allows you to be given a time to ride the ride and you could come back when it was time and not have to wait all day in the line. I was unaware that people could just rent a wheelchair upon arriving so there was a ton of people going through wheelchair lines. So needless to say we did not ride many rides because of the wait times, rookie mistake but noted. Also, make a list of what rides are wheelchair accessible without transfer, unless you can transfer. It is hard transferring my daughter onto the rides and I made a list of all wheelchair accessible rides but not the non transfer rides, so I did have to transfer her onto some rides.

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Prepare for Rain

I did actually prepare for rain. We all had our ponchos packed and ready. Although I did not expect to be having to wear them almost the entire time. I had read it rains sporadically in Florida, but that week it rained more frequent. It didn’t stop us, we just put our ponchos on and kept going. It did although shut some rides down and shows that we used our fast pass for. My bag also was totally drenched and my notebook I wrote our plans in was ruined. So I suggest use a water proof bag and maybe Ziploc baggies to put your map and autograph notebook in.

Use your Fast Passes Wisely

Because we stayed at a resort, I was able to reserve our Fast Pass activities early. It literally took me days to go through the events and rides and choose 3 per day we wanted to reserve. So I thought I did a really good job at planning our Fast Pass reservations. Soooo wrong. First of all, look at a map of the park before hand and see how where the events are. You might want to start close to the front of the park and work yourself to the back of the park. I did not do that. We would see one show and then have to boogie to another part of the park before our next reservation started. Making it hard to enjoy each part of the park. After you use your 3 fast passes you can add more on a kiosk or your phone. Make sure you know where the kiosk are on the map because my phone was either dead or was not getting signal to make more fast pass reservations.

Use Transportation if you can

We decided to drive from our resort to each park. We were unaware if there was enough accessible seating on the bus and we wanted the freedom to leave as needed. In my head I thought we may need to leave the park to rest at the resort and go back later. That did not happen. We stayed busy the entire time, no time for breaks. So anyways, we had to pay $25.00 to park each day. That adds up when you already spent $5,000 to go to Disney World. My suggestion is research transportation and take advantage of it.

You will not see EVERYTHING

I really wish I had prepared myself mentally that we would not se everything we wanted to see at Disney World. I wish I would have tried not to rush around to see all the attractions and just slowed down to enjoy what we could see. Don’t get me wrong we saw a lot of Disney World and enjoyed so much. Make a list of your must haves and try not to worry about the rest. I did make a list of the major must haves. My daughter loves Mickey Mouse, Monsters Inc and Cinderella. She got to meet Mickey Mouse and she danced with the Monsters Inc crew, unfortunately we were unable to make it to see Cinderella, but honestly I don’t think she remembered that. My son was all about the Animal Kingdom and he loved attractions that I did not even plan. Not planning everything actually works out better sometimes. For instance, I did not plan on us seeing the “Finding Nemo Musical”, because I did not think my family would enjoy it. But we saw they didn’t have a wait line and we all needed to sit for a while so we went in. Ciara (my daughter) loved it, I never knew she loved musicals so much. The whole family really enjoyed it. So just take it easy and have fun.

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I know some hardcore Disney fans may disagree with me, but I cannot lie and say everything was perfect. We made a lot of memories and did have a lot of fun, but the stress was there. The crowds are awful, everything is overpriced and you will encounter stressful situations. But I encourage you to not be like me, don’t sweat the small stuff, don’t let you anxiety win and just have the best time of your life at the most magical place on Earth!

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Insecurities Can Affect your Marriage

Insecurities affect more than just your own life, it affects your marriage as well. When you do not love truly love yourself, how do you expect to accept the love of another person??

I have been with  my husband for almost 19 years now. We met as teenagers and have basically grown up together. He accepted a single teenage mother to be the love of his life, but yet I cannot accept that he truly loves me.

My body insecurities have caused many problems in our marriage. Of coarse not ALL of our problems stem from my insecurities, but I know if I loved myself more I would be a better wife for him.

My insecurities for myself really started after having my son. I gained a lot of weight and I still have not lost the weight from before him. And he is 13! Sometimes I feel like such a failure that I cannot just lose the weight and feel better about myself, and I think my husband must be so disappointed in me. My mind wonders if he wishes he could have the girl he fell in love with back, that young blonde with a decent body.

He reassures me that he still thinks I am pretty and my weight does not bother him, but my mind tells me he cannot be telling the truth. He sees the same me I see in the mirror and that me is disgusting.  So I may roll my eyes or say something sarcastically when he compliments me , because I cannot believe he would see something different than I see in the mirror. That greatly affects our marriage, because he thinks his opinion does not matter and he is being of accused of lying.

My insecurities also affect our intimacy, because I do not want him to see me naked. I make excuses or just go to bed and that really hurts his feelings because he starts to feel he is not good enough. And that truly breaks my heart because it is my fault he feels that way. And we all know the thoughts us ladies have when you know you are giving your husband lovins, our first thought is he will go find it elsewhere. Now I know my husband would not do that to me, but it does not mean my brain does not think about it. My brain tells me “he will find a girl with a better body, and you will be alone forever”.  

I have let my insecurities within myself have control for too long! I will not let them destroy my marriage and my family. I am going to believe my husband when he tells me I am beautiful and I am going to tell myself that every time I look in the mirror. “YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL”. 

I may not lose weight, some things are just out of my control , but I can control ME and I am going to love myself no matter the size I am! I am going to embrace my curves and embrace my husband!

If you are letting your insecurities control you marriage, it is not too late to regain control. Start by telling yourself “YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL”, and then truly believe it because YOU ARE!

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Just Be YOU

It has recently occurred to me that I worry about what others think of me WAY TOO MUCH! A part of loving yourself is letting go of what you think other people want you to be and just BE YOU!

Social media has many good aspect, finding long lost friends and getting to share your life with others. Social media also lets you into other people’s lives, 24/7. You get to see others lives that may be a bit more spontaneous or fabulous than your own. You question yourself and think…. should I be like them??

For instance, I have seen post about restaurants that I have never even heard of. My family and I usually go to the same ole same restaurants, so I think we are so boring. We then try these restaurants and find that we DO NOT fit in or the food is just not what we are in to. Again I think there must be something wrong with us because everybody else loved these places.

It is that way of thinking that makes us feel we are never good enough and little by little we start to hate ourselves and our lives. But we are not all supposed to be the same. God made us all different for a reason. If he expected us all to be the same we would all just be carbon copies, but he made each and everyone of us different. With different opinions, different personalities and different tastes.

Of coarse it is not just social media that makes us feel we should not be ourselves. Certain people will make you feel that you are just not good enough.

I am having to realize that some people will just not like me, for me. I would like to think I am a nice person, that genially cares for others. I may come across as fake or two faced but I really do not try to be. That is just me.  Now I may act different with people that I am really close with but that is because my anxiety does not affect the way I act with those people. My anxiety makes me question every word I speak with people that I am not that close with and I may seem stand offish at times, just because I am afraid I will say the wrong thing. I hate to offend others and will go out of my way not to hurt other people’s feelings. Now that does not mean I don’t get mad at people.  I am guilty of having a temper. I am not good at hiding my emotions, so if you make me mad, you will most likely know that I am upset. I especially don’t hide my feelings when it comes to my kids.

With that said, I have gone out of my way to please others and act a certain way to make them like me.  I am finally realizing that no matter how I change myself they will never like me.  I just need to be myself and the right people will be in my life for who I am.

I am on this journey of self love for myself, not for others to like me. I really encourage you to stop being what you think other people want you to be and just be you! You are enough just the way you are and so am I!

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Fall Plus Size Fashion

Fall is finally upon us, well not here in Texas, it is still hotter than hades. But I know it is coming!

I love everything about Fall. The leaves changing colors, the cooler crisp air, and pumpkin spice everything!

When it comes to Fall I think my favorite part is the Fall Fashion. Getting to wear all those great Autumn colors…burgundy, mustard, green and all those browns. Getting to pull out those sweaters from the back of the closet for those cool Fall nights.

So lets talk about some Fall fashion! I have found some really great online boutiques that have great plus size clothes. The boutique I will be featuring in this post is Glitzy Girlz Boutique. They have tons of really cute plus size fall clothing. I have chosen a few of my favorite fall pieces to feature.  

Curvy what you seek Mustard Plus Size Top

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This cozy knit top is just adorable! You could pair it with jeans and leggings and look amazing sitting by a Fall bonfire

Thankful and Grateful Tee

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This super soft mossy green tee is the perfect Fall shirt. Pair it with some jeans and an utility vest and you are ready for the pumpkin patch.

Curvy Desired Utility Vest

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I love everything about this outfit! Of coarse you can get all pieces on Glitzy Girlz Boutique website, but I wanted to show this vest that would go perfect with the tee mentioned above.

Pumpkin Spice Coffee Cup Graphic Tee

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I am just in love with this rust colored, super soft graphic tee. I can honestly see myself wearing this with some jeans and a cardigan, as I sip on my pumpkin spice coffee.

Hayrides Graphic Tee

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So here is another graphic tee that I adore! I just had to show an option with some flannel, I love flannel. This rust colored graphic tee would go perfect with some flannel, jeans and some brown boots.

Curvy Steady as she goes Mustard Cardigan

Curvy Kael Dark Wash Plus Size Denim Jeans

Wayland Bronze Bootie

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Cardigan $38.95 Dark wash jeans $49.95 Bronze Booties $59.95

Ok so I love every part of this outfit from the Soft flowing kimono with rich harvest shades to the dark denim jeans. You could pair the Cardigan with any fall color tank and be ready to hit the town.

Curvy Kaede Light Wash Plus Size Denim Jeans

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I need these jeans in my life! I could totally see myself rocking these jeans with a graphic tee or a tunic with a kimono. There are so many options with these super cute denim jeans. 

I hope you enjoyed my favorite Fall Fashions from Glitzy Girlz Boutique! I cannot wait to do some Fall shopping.

Head over to https://www.glitzygirlzboutique.com/

Check out their amazing Plus Size Fashions and don’t forget to sign up for e-mails. They give great promo codes in their e-mails.

Happy Fall!

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Promote Self Love

Why is making adult friends so hard? Seriously, it is worse than high school! At least in high school I had a group of friends I could really depend on, but as an adult I find it really hard to find true friends. True friends that don’t tear me down but build me up.

Why do we have to bring each other down and judge each other? We have enough to worry about as women, why do we have to make life harder on other women?

I know I have been judged by other women. Maybe because of my weight or maybe because I don’t have enough money. Maybe they think I am lazy and just sit and eat all day because I am a stay at home mom. They would be wrong! I take care of a special needs adult (my daughter), a thirteen year old boy, and a husband. I keep a clean house, keep up with doctor appointments, grocery shopping, therapy and I lead a special needs girl scout troop. Some may never know that because they judged me before they knew me and instantly made me question if i was worth it. When people won’t even take the time to get to know you, it hurts your self esteem.

It hurts worse when people that do know you, judge you or bring your self esteem down. I know as women we may want what others have or we don’t feel good enough so we make other women feel bad about themselves. That has to stop! I truly believe we should be lifting each other up and promoting other woman to love themselves. In the end I think we will find more love for ourselves.

Years ago I lost my very best friend to a drug overdose. She had insecurities within herself which led her to drugs. I constantly think about her and what if I had tried to build her self esteem up instead of judging her. I loved her very much but sometimes I did feel she was prettier than me, and my insecurities kept me from telling her how truly beautiful I thought she was. I will never know if I could have helped her and I do not want anymore what ifs in my life. I choose to stop judging other woman and build other woman up!

I encourage you to think about other women that have come into your life, and you rejected them because you did not think they were good enough. Put the judgement aside and truly get to know them for who they are. Stop being one of the reasons women hate their self and be the reason they love their self.

Promote self love not hate!