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Love your Body

It has occurred to me that I have lost sight of why I started this blog, to try to open the eyes of the world that big women are beautiful! Also, for big women to see their true beauty while I also learn to love my body the way it is.

I still love blogging about being a mom and family life, but I want to focus back on my mission, for people to accept plus size people.

I have a lot to say on this topic so I may be a bit scattered brained, but bare with me.

I can honestly say that I love being a plus size woman. Am I happy with my body 100% of the time…no. I would love to lose about 50 pounds and get in better shape so that I can take better care of my my disabled daughter. Will I ever be skinny?? No. Nor do I care about being skinny. Not that there is anything wrong with being skinny, I was just not meant to be a smaller woman.

I have always been on the chunky side, since I was a child. I was a very active kid , I played sports and took dance. I ate what every other kid was eating, but I gained weight more than the other kids.


When I was in 5th grade, kids at school really started making fun of my weight. I was then aware that I was different, and of coarse different always has to be bad, right?? So, I started countless diets, battled depression, and even hated going to school.

As a child, I should not have had to deal with body image issues, no child should!

God made us all different, we are not meant to all be the same size and weight.

People are having weight loss surgeries and going on extreme diets, so that they can fit in with society. Now, I know some people have to lose weight because of health problems, do skinny people not have the same health problems??

My mom had gastric bypass years ago because her Doctor said losing the weight would make all her health problems disappear, my words, but same meaning. She lost the weight, but still has heart problems and high blood pressure.

I am done trying to fit in with society, yes I want to be healthy and I CAN be healthy and plus size. I am meant to have curves and junk in my trunk and I am gonna own it!

This message is not just for plus size women. Society puts an unrealistic standard on what a woman should look like. Some of you may have body image issues and not be overweight.

This is for all of you woman reading this. Love your bodies the way they are meant to be, own and flaunt it! Show the World we come in all shapes and sizes and ALL sizes are beautiful!

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This is Me

It has recently occurred to me that I spend a lot of time and energy putting on a persona that is not me. Maybe because Social Media has become such big parts of our lives and our whole lives can be broadcast, we feel we have to keep up with the Jones’. I may purposely not post random events in my life trying to keep up this persona and only post a glamourous life, that is not glamourous.

It is actually very stressful if you think about it, trying to be someone you are not and trying to keep up with other people. It makes me a miserable person trying to live beyond my means when I am honestly okay with what I have.

So this is ME.


*I am a little on the Trashy Side

I am a down home country girl. I have lived in the country for most of my life and still do. I do not live in a fancy housing edition and my lawn is not perfectly landscaped, heck I am lucky if my 3 acres is mowed. I  walk around bare foot most the time and love the peace and quiet of it all. I do enjoy a glass of wine on my patio with the alluring smell of cow manure from the cow lot across the street.



* I am just fine with Off Brand

Somewhere along the way I started to feel as if I needed designer things. Like my purses were not good enough or my clothes, when in all honesty I am perfectly fine with a Wal-mart purse and thrift stores. Heck most my clothes growing up were from Garage Sales and I still love me some Garage Sales. I do not need designer products to make me happy, it is just material objects and I love me some good deals!

FYI, if you come to my house you will find Great Value food, if you don’t know that that is, you might not want to visit.



* I don’t need the finer things in life

I really don’t understand why we kill ourselves keeping up appearances. I mean I am one of those people out there wanting things I cannot afford and pouting when I cannot afford it. But why? For instance, I have an above ground pool and avoid inviting people over because of the shame of not having an inground pool. In my neighborhood growing up if you had an above ground pool from Wal-Mart, you were the rich kid. And my pool is actually a good above ground pool, so I am doing pretty good.

I don’t have brand new appliances, most the time I find used ones and they are just fine with me. Our camper is old and so small if someone toots it will clear the whole camper out, but we worked hard to get that tiny camper and I love it!



* I am a Horror Freak

This year I noticed after I had decorated for Fall in my house, that I had left all the scary décor out and only had pretty Fall décor. That is soo not me, but I wanted to be able to post cute, pretty Fall pictures, like everyone else was. The real me wants you to feel like you are walking into a Haunted House when you enter my home in October. I want people to wonder what is wrong with me.

For some reason I just let myself get caught up in what I thought others wanted me to be. I love horror movies (the scarier the better), Haunted Houses and scary costumes!



* I am not a fan of Starbucks or Target

Okay so I may lose some of you on this one. I know there will be eye rolling and “girl please” with this one, but just saying I don’t see the obsession. I have taken my kids to Starbucks a couple of times and of coarse snapped that pic for Social Media, but really I  was not impressed with the coffee. Now at Cooks Children Hospital when you are waiting for your child to have a procedure, the Starbucks does come in handy.

And for Target, it is not nearby for me and not convenient for me to do my shopping there. I am all about Wal-Mart, it is located close to me and I know where everything is. I actually just started doing the online grocery pickup and I looove it!! So yeah, I don’t see the Target obsession.



* I don’t do Fancy

I like to dress up and wear makeup, but I really am not into Fancy living. My family and I love our usual restaurants and they are not fancy. We just don’t fit in with the fancier life. I would rather have cheap costume jewelry rather than Diamonds and I will take my redneck husband in his cut off shirt over a man in a suit.




* My Family Is Not Perfect

Most of the time I avoid posting my real family. I am not ashamed of them by no means, but I post what I think others would be impressed with.

Where I live sports are a big thing, and my son is just not that into them right now. I get aggravated with him for not wanting to play, when in reality I just want to fit in with the other moms. Not anymore, my son can be who he wants to be and I am proud of him. He does not make all A’s but he passes and I am okay with that.

My husband does not make a ton of money but he works hard for every penny he earns and he provides for us. I am completely okay with my redneck husband and whatever job he wants to work.

My daughter is special needs and even in the special needs world you can get caught up with appearance. I worry I don’t have her in enough therapy or I am not doing enough with her to help her, because other moms are doing more. But in all honesty my daughter is tired of all the therapy and me signing her up for things she is not interested in. I am going to let her decide from now on, on what she wants to do. Well maybe with a few of her life decisions, if I leave it up to her she would sit at grandma’s house everyday getting spoiled. I am proud of who she is and what she can accomplish.

So in conclusion, I have a pretty good life and I am going to start enjoying it. I am done worrying about what others have and what others may think of my not so normal life.

I am blessed to have what I have and to be who I am.



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New Year, New Me

Every year at the end of the one year and the beginning of a new one, we see everyone making their New Years Resolutions. To lose weight, get their finances in order or to find their soul mate.

I personally hate resolutions, it puts so much pressure on me to strive to succeed in the coming year. So when I do not achieve my goals, I feel like a total loser.

For 2020 I will not be joining a new gym or buying the latest weight loss products, I simply choose a better me for 2020.

Here is my list of my not so resolutions for the new year.

  • I will love myself no matter my size.
  •  I will value my time and have more ME time
  •  I will stop being a people pleaser and put myself first.
  •  I will not change who I am for others to like me.
  •  I will appreciate the friends that I have and spend more time with them.
  •  I will balance being a mother and wife without losing myself in the process.
  •  I will stress less and enjoy life more.
  •  I will learn to love myself unconditionally, mind, body and soul.

This year I hope to find who I really am, not what others want me to be. I will be selfish and think of myself a little more. The most important of them all is I hope by the time 2020 comes to an end, that I can truly say I love everything about myself, and can help others to see their beauty as well.

Happy New years to all you wonderful people!! Thank you for following my Perfectly Imperfect Plus Life and check out my Facebook page

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Just Be YOU

It has recently occurred to me that I worry about what others think of me WAY TOO MUCH! A part of loving yourself is letting go of what you think other people want you to be and just BE YOU!

Social media has many good aspect, finding long lost friends and getting to share your life with others. Social media also lets you into other people’s lives, 24/7. You get to see others lives that may be a bit more spontaneous or fabulous than your own. You question yourself and think…. should I be like them??

For instance, I have seen post about restaurants that I have never even heard of. My family and I usually go to the same ole same restaurants, so I think we are so boring. We then try these restaurants and find that we DO NOT fit in or the food is just not what we are in to. Again I think there must be something wrong with us because everybody else loved these places.

It is that way of thinking that makes us feel we are never good enough and little by little we start to hate ourselves and our lives. But we are not all supposed to be the same. God made us all different for a reason. If he expected us all to be the same we would all just be carbon copies, but he made each and everyone of us different. With different opinions, different personalities and different tastes.

Of coarse it is not just social media that makes us feel we should not be ourselves. Certain people will make you feel that you are just not good enough.

I am having to realize that some people will just not like me, for me. I would like to think I am a nice person, that genially cares for others. I may come across as fake or two faced but I really do not try to be. That is just me.  Now I may act different with people that I am really close with but that is because my anxiety does not affect the way I act with those people. My anxiety makes me question every word I speak with people that I am not that close with and I may seem stand offish at times, just because I am afraid I will say the wrong thing. I hate to offend others and will go out of my way not to hurt other people’s feelings. Now that does not mean I don’t get mad at people.  I am guilty of having a temper. I am not good at hiding my emotions, so if you make me mad, you will most likely know that I am upset. I especially don’t hide my feelings when it comes to my kids.

With that said, I have gone out of my way to please others and act a certain way to make them like me.  I am finally realizing that no matter how I change myself they will never like me.  I just need to be myself and the right people will be in my life for who I am.

I am on this journey of self love for myself, not for others to like me. I really encourage you to stop being what you think other people want you to be and just be you! You are enough just the way you are and so am I!