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Curvy Girl Do’s and Don’ts

When you are a curvy girl, clothes that work for less curvy girls, do not work for us. Over the many years of being a plus-size woman, I have learned some do’s and don’ts with clothing styles.

These are my opinions and what works for my body type.

Baby Doll Shirts

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Don’t

High wasted baby doll shirts do not work for women with bigger boobs. They cut through our boobs making it look like we have an extra section of fat above our belly.

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Don’t

Low wasted baby doll shirts will draw more attention to your midsection and make you look larger.

 

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Do

Find a baby doll shirt that is cinched under the boobs and above the belly. It will accentuate your boob area and make you look thinner.

 

 

Shark Hem Tops

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Don’t

When I wear shorter shark hem shirts, all it does is make my hips look bigger. They tend to hug the hips, so if you have big hips like me, stay away from short shark hem tops.

 

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Do

If you like the look of an uneven hemline, look for longer shark hem tops. They won’t hug your hips and flow more to add a more thinning effect.

Stripes

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Don’t

Avoid thin horizontal stripes, they add more width to your body, hence making you look bigger.

 

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Do

Try wearing vertical stripes to give the illusion of being taller, if you are a shorty like me, and they make you seem thinner.

Short Sleeves

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Don’t

If you have larger arms, like me, avoid shirts that cut your arm off right on the flab. Shorter sleeves just make my big ole arms look even bigger and flabbier.

 

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Do

Find shirts with long sleeves, that fall below the biggest part of your arm.

 

Dresses

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Don’t

Dresses that have weird waistlines always make me look like a pumpkin. I just look frumpy. Avoid dresses that are straight-lined and cinched in awkward places.

 

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Do

I love a flowing maxi dress. It hides all my unwanted curves and gives me freedom.

Ruffles

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Don’t

Ruffles can add unwanted volume to your body. I always avoid tops that have ruffles in places that I don’t want more volume, such as boobs and tummy.

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Do

If you like ruffles, find tops where the ruffles are in the right places. I love ruffled sleeves or an off the shoulder ruffle shirt is great.

 

 

Patterns

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Don’t

Too many patterns on your body can add so much weight. I like to avoid prints that have a lot going on or different patterns, such as stripes and flowers.

 

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Do

Find patterns that accentuate your body. Stay away from bold prints and add more subtle prints. I love me some Leopard print, but too much can be a bad thing.

Curvy Girl Must-Haves

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Kimonos

I love Kimonos! They hide my hips and add extra to my outfits.

 

 

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Cami

Camis are great for us bigger girls. Sometimes shirts are just not long enough to cover the ole tummy, and camis come in handy to cover what I don’t want to be seen.

 

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Graphic Tee Shirts

Graphic T-shirts are great to have. You can mix and match, wear a jacket, vest or kimono. You can dress it in a skirt, wedges and jacket, or wear pants and tennis shoes. I love having a bunch of graphic t-shirts on hand.

That is all the Do’s and Don’t I have, for now, make sure to follow me for more Curvy girl style tips and tricks!

I hope you all enjoyed my Curvy Girl Do’s and Don’ts and can use some of my tips. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Love your Body

It has occurred to me that I have lost sight of why I started this blog, to try to open the eyes of the world that big women are beautiful! Also, for big women to see their true beauty while I also learn to love my body the way it is.

I still love blogging about being a mom and family life, but I want to focus back on my mission, for people to accept plus size people.

I have a lot to say on this topic so I may be a bit scattered brained, but bare with me.

I can honestly say that I love being a plus size woman. Am I happy with my body 100% of the time…no. I would love to lose about 50 pounds and get in better shape so that I can take better care of my my disabled daughter. Will I ever be skinny?? No. Nor do I care about being skinny. Not that there is anything wrong with being skinny, I was just not meant to be a smaller woman.

I have always been on the chunky side, since I was a child. I was a very active kid , I played sports and took dance. I ate what every other kid was eating, but I gained weight more than the other kids.

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When I was in 5th grade, kids at school really started making fun of my weight. I was then aware that I was different, and of coarse different always has to be bad, right?? So, I started countless diets, battled depression, and even hated going to school.

As a child, I should not have had to deal with body image issues, no child should!

God made us all different, we are not meant to all be the same size and weight.

People are having weight loss surgeries and going on extreme diets, so that they can fit in with society. Now, I know some people have to lose weight because of health problems, do skinny people not have the same health problems??

My mom had gastric bypass years ago because her Doctor said losing the weight would make all her health problems disappear, my words, but same meaning. She lost the weight, but still has heart problems and high blood pressure.

I am done trying to fit in with society, yes I want to be healthy and I CAN be healthy and plus size. I am meant to have curves and junk in my trunk and I am gonna own it!

This message is not just for plus size women. Society puts an unrealistic standard on what a woman should look like. Some of you may have body image issues and not be overweight.

This is for all of you woman reading this. Love your bodies the way they are meant to be, own and flaunt it! Show the World we come in all shapes and sizes and ALL sizes are beautiful!

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Plus Size Active Wear

Did you know that department stores now have plus size mannequins displaying active wear for women? I think it is great! It shows the world that plus size women care about fitness too!

Now us plus size women need to show the world how good we look getting in shape.

Finding plus size clothes that you can feel comfortable in while working out has always been a challenge, but now there are so many more options for us big girls.

Check out these fat girl approved active wear!

Flowing Racer back tanks are a must, I hate having my sweaty clothes sticking to me.

I love tummy control active pants! These are so cute and they have a spot for your phone!

So many colors to choose from!

This Tunic Sweater looks so comfortable and comes in several colors!

Gotta keep the girls secure!!

I cannot wait to try these more big girl friendly active wear and who knows i might actually enjoy working out in them!

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Less Stress Weight Loss Tips

If you are anything like me, the less stressful weight loss can be, the better.

Recently I have felt sluggish and tired, feeling like the extra Holiday weight is weighing me down. Now, I am not one for strict diets and gym memberships, but I do find myself needing to lose some weight. I will not have unrealistic goals, just to be in better shape and feel better.

My ultimate goal is still to love my body image just the way I am, so I do not plan on being skinny, just more fit and healthy.

With all that said, I reached out to my readers for advice on simple weight loss tips. I received some great advice and can’t wait to try these less stress weight loss tips.

Drink plenty of water!

Drinking water is by far the most important factor in losing weight and being healthy. Sugary drinks weigh you down and will actually take away your energy.

I suggest getting a water bottle that keeps track of how much water you drink because I lose track of how glasses I have drunk.

Check out this water bottle from Amazon, you can even add fruits to make your water more enjoyable.

 

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Eating Healthier 

You don’t always have to be on a a strict diet, just add in more healthy food options. One of my readers suggests Mediterranean food options and I am intrigued to learn more about this.

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Fitness

As I said before I am not one to be in the gym showing my struggle to everyone, but there is other fitness options.

I personally like dance workout videos, but you can do most fitness routines from the comfort of your home. Try yoga, get some small weights, just make up your own fitness routine.

Try to work out every other day for 1 hour, switching between weights and cardio.

Check these great fitness products to start working out from home.

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Smaller Portions

So we all know how life goes, we get busy and it is so much easier to cook unhealthy foods. When your faced with unhealthy options, portion control is essential. I need to learn portion control more than anything. Learn when your body is content and not overly full.

Portion containers are a helpful tool to use until your brain adjusts to the smaller portions.

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Vitamins and Supplements

I have learned that there is no easy weight loss pill that will magically take away your hunger or shed those pounds faster, but taking vitamins does help your body. They can give you extra energy, help your skin and nails, and regulate your body.

A good multivitamin is the best to have, when I take mine regularly I can feel a change in my body.

There are so many vitamins and supplements that are beneficial and do so much for your body.

  • vitamin c
  • Apple Cider Vinegar
  • Coconut oil
  • L-Arginine
  • B-12

I have heard so many good things about Moringa Seeds that I am adding them to my Amazon cart! They have so many health-promoting qualities!

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I hope some of these weight loss tips can help with your weight loss journey. I know I am a little more excited about starting my journey to a healthier life, with these less stress weight loss tips!

 

 

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Insecurities Can Affect your Marriage

Insecurities affect more than just your own life, it affects your marriage as well. When you do not love truly love yourself, how do you expect to accept the love of another person??

I have been with  my husband for almost 19 years now. We met as teenagers and have basically grown up together. He accepted a single teenage mother to be the love of his life, but yet I cannot accept that he truly loves me.

My body insecurities have caused many problems in our marriage. Of coarse not ALL of our problems stem from my insecurities, but I know if I loved myself more I would be a better wife for him.

My insecurities for myself really started after having my son. I gained a lot of weight and I still have not lost the weight from before him. And he is 13! Sometimes I feel like such a failure that I cannot just lose the weight and feel better about myself, and I think my husband must be so disappointed in me. My mind wonders if he wishes he could have the girl he fell in love with back, that young blonde with a decent body.

He reassures me that he still thinks I am pretty and my weight does not bother him, but my mind tells me he cannot be telling the truth. He sees the same me I see in the mirror and that me is disgusting.  So I may roll my eyes or say something sarcastically when he compliments me , because I cannot believe he would see something different than I see in the mirror. That greatly affects our marriage, because he thinks his opinion does not matter and he is being of accused of lying.

My insecurities also affect our intimacy, because I do not want him to see me naked. I make excuses or just go to bed and that really hurts his feelings because he starts to feel he is not good enough. And that truly breaks my heart because it is my fault he feels that way. And we all know the thoughts us ladies have when you know you are giving your husband lovins, our first thought is he will go find it elsewhere. Now I know my husband would not do that to me, but it does not mean my brain does not think about it. My brain tells me “he will find a girl with a better body, and you will be alone forever”.  

I have let my insecurities within myself have control for too long! I will not let them destroy my marriage and my family. I am going to believe my husband when he tells me I am beautiful and I am going to tell myself that every time I look in the mirror. “YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL”. 

I may not lose weight, some things are just out of my control , but I can control ME and I am going to love myself no matter the size I am! I am going to embrace my curves and embrace my husband!

If you are letting your insecurities control you marriage, it is not too late to regain control. Start by telling yourself “YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL”, and then truly believe it because YOU ARE!

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Fall Plus Size Fashion

Fall is finally upon us, well not here in Texas, it is still hotter than hades. But I know it is coming!

I love everything about Fall. The leaves changing colors, the cooler crisp air, and pumpkin spice everything!

When it comes to Fall I think my favorite part is the Fall Fashion. Getting to wear all those great Autumn colors…burgundy, mustard, green and all those browns. Getting to pull out those sweaters from the back of the closet for those cool Fall nights.

So lets talk about some Fall fashion! I have found some really great online boutiques that have great plus size clothes. The boutique I will be featuring in this post is Glitzy Girlz Boutique. They have tons of really cute plus size fall clothing. I have chosen a few of my favorite fall pieces to feature.  

Curvy what you seek Mustard Plus Size Top

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$39.95

 

This cozy knit top is just adorable! You could pair it with jeans and leggings and look amazing sitting by a Fall bonfire

Thankful and Grateful Tee

https://www.glitzygirlzboutique.com/
$29.95

This super soft mossy green tee is the perfect Fall shirt. Pair it with some jeans and an utility vest and you are ready for the pumpkin patch.

Curvy Desired Utility Vest

https://www.glitzygirlzboutique.com/
$28.95

I love everything about this outfit! Of coarse you can get all pieces on Glitzy Girlz Boutique website, but I wanted to show this vest that would go perfect with the tee mentioned above.

Pumpkin Spice Coffee Cup Graphic Tee

https://www.glitzygirlzboutique.com/
$23.95

I am just in love with this rust colored, super soft graphic tee. I can honestly see myself wearing this with some jeans and a cardigan, as I sip on my pumpkin spice coffee.

Hayrides Graphic Tee

https://www.glitzygirlzboutique.com/
$23.95

So here is another graphic tee that I adore! I just had to show an option with some flannel, I love flannel. This rust colored graphic tee would go perfect with some flannel, jeans and some brown boots.

Curvy Steady as she goes Mustard Cardigan

Curvy Kael Dark Wash Plus Size Denim Jeans

Wayland Bronze Bootie

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Cardigan $38.95 Dark wash jeans $49.95 Bronze Booties $59.95

Ok so I love every part of this outfit from the Soft flowing kimono with rich harvest shades to the dark denim jeans. You could pair the Cardigan with any fall color tank and be ready to hit the town.

Curvy Kaede Light Wash Plus Size Denim Jeans

https://www.glitzygirlzboutique.com/
$21.95

I need these jeans in my life! I could totally see myself rocking these jeans with a graphic tee or a tunic with a kimono. There are so many options with these super cute denim jeans. 

I hope you enjoyed my favorite Fall Fashions from Glitzy Girlz Boutique! I cannot wait to do some Fall shopping.

Head over to https://www.glitzygirlzboutique.com/

Check out their amazing Plus Size Fashions and don’t forget to sign up for e-mails. They give great promo codes in their e-mails.

Happy Fall!