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Happy Mom’s Day

This Mother’s Day is extra special to me.

Why, you may ask, makes this mother’s day so significant?

First of all, I am amazingly blessed to still have my mama for another mother’s day.

This past year, my sweet mom, had some very serious health problems. I spent many hours praying for her to “come back to us” and to begging God to ” wait a little longer“, before taking her Home.

God heard my prayers and I am so thankful to still have my mom here to celebrate another mother’s day.

I know some great women that have lost their moms this year, be thankful for every moment you have with your mom.

Don’t think about all the work that goes into making your mom feel special on mothers day.

Now, that I am a mom, I truly realize all my mom did for me growing up. So, one day to show her my appreciation, is nothing compared to the stress I caused her.

Secondly, I am beyond thankful to have my children to pamper me for Mother’s day.

I have had to watch so many amazing parents lose their precious children, and my heart hurt with them.

I know, most of us moms, just want to sleep late, have a clean house, and be pampered.

I want that too, but I also want my kids to spend every moment with me on mother’s day. With no complaining.

This year I pray with all my heart for the mama’s having to exist during mothers day without their mama or their child.

I pray they God comforts them and heals their broken hearts.

Lastly, I am so thankful, to have an amazing husband that will stay up all night smoking a Brisket for me to eat on mother’s day.

My husband makes sure I have an amazing day, and appreciates me by letting me rest on mom’s day.

I know, there are so many single moms raising their children all alone. They are the strongest women and they make it looks easy, but I know the weight of world must be heavy on them.

I admire all you single moms out there, having to be the mom and the dad, you’re the real VIPs of mother’s day!

So, Happy Mother’s Day to all you amazing moms! I hope you all have the best day! No matter what you’re going through this mother’s day, just know, you are not alone.

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Cerebral Palsy does not Define her

As most of you all know, my daughter Ciara has Cerebral Palsy, but that is not what defines her.

Cerebral Palsy is defined as “a condition marked by impaired muscle coordination (spastic paralysis) and/or other disabilities, typically caused by damage to the brain before or at birth.”

Because of her disability, she cannot walk out talk, but she does not let that stop her. There is so much more wonderful things about her other than her disability.

Here is a list of what makes Ciara so special and proof that cerebral Palsy does not define her.

She loves EVERYONE!

She has a special excitement for life.

She takes pride in everything she does.

She loves her job and never complains.

She enjoys it when she is given responsibilities or chores, so she can prove she can do it.

She loves to cook!!

She has the biggest heart and really does care about everyone she knows.

She worries about her friends and prays for them.

She is obsessed with music, her favorite singer is George Straight.

She listens to everything she hears and absorbs every word like a sponge. She can know a song after only one time of listening to it.

She knows and understands her disability.

She knows how to work her disability and is quick to tell people “I am handicapped“, as a rebuttal.

She is a sensitive soul and can get her feelings hurt easily.

She sometimes feels sadness because of her disability.

She wishes she could do what others her age can do.

She longs to be a mother.

Her maturity level is that of a 12 year old.

She has a special innocence about her.

She hates her hands and feet, because they don’t do what she wants them to do.

She feels embarrassment from her disability, such as drooling, having an accident or because of the lack of hand control.

Her “best friends” are people who treat her like a regular human being.

She doesn’t like being spoken to like a “baby”.

She has an “attitude“.

She startles easily.

She can read and communicate via messenger.

If you are one of her “best friends”, she will text you every day.

She loves attention.

She tries her best at every single thing she does.

She always wants to help others.

She loves sweets!

She loves coffee!

She smiles through the pain.

She struggles every day but remains happy.

She loves Disney and is saving her money to go to Disney land.

She has an old soul and enjoys watching old murder mysteries.

She loves going to the lake and camping.

She gets so excited when she learns something new or masters a new goal.

She forgives but she doesn’t forget.

She loves the Lord and looks forward to the day she will “walk” with Jesus.

She is my hero.

She has so many people that love and adore her.

She has a mom that will advocate for her everyday of her life.

Of course, there is so much more I could share about my sweet girl, the list could go on and on.

CP may affect her body, but it can never take away her beautiful mind and heart.

I encourage you to get to know people with disabilities and don’t let their diagnosis define them.

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Confessions of a Mom

Let’s face it motherhood is hard! We have to keep these little human beings alive while also trying to be a perfect mom.

We all have those moments where we feel like we have failed as a mother. I would like to share my moments of shame, my confessions of a mom.

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I have given my children wipe baths.

Ok yes, sometimes the days are exhausting and instead of a bath my kids get wiped down with a wet wipe or wash rag.

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I have fed my kids cereal for dinner

Sometimes I do not want to even look at the oven to cook a meal so they get a nice bowl of cereal.

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I have forgotten the sunscreen

Yes, my kids have gotten burnt by the sun because of their forgetful mother. At least they got pampered by mom with aloe and popsicles.

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I have overslept

When the world was still open and the kids were in school, there were days they were late to school because of dear old mama pushing that snooze button.

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I have cried in my car

When my kiddos were younger, there were those dreaded moments when both would be screaming at the same time. So yes, I have cried in the car, supermarket, Church, pretty much everywhere.

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I have lied to my children

“Yep, Chucky Cheese is closed today.”

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Even with all my shameful mom moments, I still think I am a pretty good mom. They have everything they need, they are healthy and they are loved.

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Don’t be so hard on yourself moms. This Mother’s Day, sit back and enjoy being a mom. Look at those magnificent creatures you made and know that you are doing a great job.

Happy Mother’s Day to all you wonderful moms out there!

 

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Great Texas Getaways

With all of us being quarantined right now, we can’t help but think about taking a vacation.

My family enjoys waterfront properties, away from the hustle and bustle of life.

I decided to share my Texas waterfront gems my family have enjoyed over the years, full of tranquility and relaxation.

Bacliff, TX

This was an amazing vacation rental. I really had no complaints. There was so much there for my family to enjoy, such as pool table, swimming pool, fishing dock, arcade, outdoor tv and outdoor grilling. It was absolutley amazing! Only draw backs, if you are looking to swim in the ocean, it is a bay house so it’s not for swimming. The fishing was perfect though and they included fishing equipment. Also if you do have a child in a wheelchair there is little steps throughout the house, which is manageable. I highly suggest this property and suggest you take in all the sights of this amazing house.

Check out this Vrbo rental: https://t.vrbo.io/qPfLEwYfS5

Lake Livingston Cottage

This small cottage was so quaint and relaxing. Right on the water of Lake Livingston, I mean you walk off the deck and there is a beach area. The kids enjoyed swimming and playing in the beach area and I enjoyed the hammock. There is great fishing and they included a pedal boat with the rental. It is not handicapped accessible, there is an upper level where the beds are but we carried our daughter up the stairs. If you are looking for a waterfront oasis, this place is perfect.

Check out this Vrbo rental: https://t.vrbo.io/FQulh88fS5

Bolivar Peninsula

If you want something beach front, look no further. This property is beach front, with a great beach perfect for finding seashells. We went during spring break one year and it was cloudy and a bit chilly but we loved every minute of this property, we even rented an extra night. The beds were unbelievably comfortable and you could hear the waves crashing to the shore from the bedroom, with the window open. It was so relaxing and the kids loved searching the beach for seashells.

Check out this Vrbo rental: https://t.vrbo.io/95QQAtogS5

Glamping on Lake Conroe

If you want camp life without really camping, this place is perfect. You can rent a RV right by the water of Lake Conroe. There is 2 RVs you can choose from. One is beyond fancy and the other is great as well but not as extremely fancy as the other. They included kayaks and life jackets. We had a great time kayaking, making s’mores and floating in the lake. Plus there is some good fishing there as well.

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I hope when the world opens back you enjoy one of these great Texas getaways!

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Birthdays During Quarantine

Birthdays are so special for our little ones and special for us parents, to throw that magical birthday party that they will remember a lifetime.

My son’s birthday is coming up and I was feeling sad that we most likely will still be quarantined when his birthday gets here. It saddens me that we will not be able to party with our friends and family with a big birthday bash, but there are still ways to make sure your child has an amazing birthday.

Here are some ideas to make this birthday a birthday to remember.

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Birthday Parade

Have your friends and family decorate their cars with balloons streamers and Happy Birthday signs and have them drive down your road in a Birthday Parade. Make sure to honk and yell “Happy Birthday ” as you pass by the birthday kiddo.

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Treats

If you don’t like to bake, local bakeries are doing curbside or porch pickups for your favorite sweet treats.

 

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Birthday Cards

Kids love to get mail! Have all your friends and family send Birthday cards to arrive on their Birthday.

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Zoom Party

Send all your friends and family a zoom link so they can join in on the party fun!

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Birthday Yard Sign

How great would your child feel to wake up to a huge birthday sign in their own front yard! Amazon has many designs you can choose from, just make sure to order early for your kid’s upcoming birthday. I have included a link for a great birthday yard sign.

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Birthday in a Box

You can also order a birthday in a box for your special little one. They come with everything you need to celebrate for that special day. I can’t even imagine how excited I would be to wake up on my birthday and get to open a big box of birthday fun, just for me! I have also included a link for this birthday in a box.

I hope some of these ideas will help you plan an awesome birthday for your little one. I know I am excited to try some of these ideas for my son’s upcoming birthday!

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What I have learned during COVID 19

The past few weeks have been stressful, to say the least. School is closed, shelter in place has taken place, it is hard finding groceries and everyone is scared and panicked.

My family’s routine is completely out of whack and there is no structure to our days at home. I spend most days just cleaning the house since we are here making messes all day. I was really finding it hard to see any bright side to this situation until I sat back and looked at the situation from another point of view.

Through the midst of all the stress and uncertainty, I have learned things I may have never know otherwise.

* My kids just want attention

As I was going over my to-do list for the next day, I noticed my son asked my husband about cars. He was curious about how his dad knew so much about cars. My husband then told him he learned by working on them. So for the past week my husband and son have been working on his truck, because it broke down right before shelter in place, and I absolutely love seeing them bond together. My son gets so excited when he learns something new and I can tell it brings my husband joy as well. In the past, my husband would be too tired from working all day and the weekends would always be too busy. Now they have time to spend time together, hopefully, after all this is over with they will still take that time to bond over working on stuff.

I think we get so caught up in life we assume they would rather be playing on their devices, but in reality, they just need a little attention.

There are still nice people out there

Over the past month, I have seen so many people going out of their way to do nice things for others. There are some people placing blessing boxes on their doorstep with essential items for people to pick up. There are others who are doing grocery shopping for the elderly or families with a special needs child. I have seen some delivering meals to special needs families doorstep.

With all this craziness right now, I am glad there is still good in this World. I only wish I was doing more to do my part.

There will always be something to clean

Being in the house for weeks has taught me that I could clean 24 hours a day and there will always be more to clean. I feel like I have wasted time with my family by just focusing on the house. So I have learned that I need to stop worrying about the house being spotless, I mean really who is going to see it, and spend more time with my family.

I miss social interaction

Before this epidemic, I had become a bit of an introvert. I was ordering my groceries online and picking up from my car, I was using Amazon for a lot of my shopping and I spent most weekends at home. Now that is all I CAN do! I miss talking to people, I miss nights out, I miss sitting at a restaurant.

It is funny how a horrible situation can make you change your mind about the way you were living life.

So while this is a horrible experience for all of us, there is good to come from it. Enjoy family time, show people you care, stop obsessing over the small stuff and remember to enjoy life more when this is all over with.

My prayers are with all the families suffering from a loss right now and all who are sick, my heart goes out to you. 

 

 

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Boredom Busters for Teenagers

With the widespread coronavirus pandemic schools have closed, which means our children are stuck at home with us. This is a very troubling time for us, and even more stressful not knowing what we should be doing with our children.

This is different then the summer break kids get at the end of the school year. For one, with the virus spreading we are urged to stay indoors. Which means no Movie Theaters, Zoo outings or any activities outside of our homes. Not to mention the school year is not over, so you want to make sure your child does not lose everything they have learned throughout the year.

There is so much uncertainty right now but all I am certain of is that my 13-year-old will be home a total of three weeks quarantined with me and his sister. That is if they don’t decide to close the schools down for the rest of the year.

So I have compiled a list of things you can do with your teenager at home in this troubling time.

Stay on track of Studies

I have been checking the teacher’s websites for information on what the classes were working on previously to spring break. I also heard the school will send class worksheets soon, so the kids can stay up with their work.

I also found some websites that are helping keep kids learning in this time away from school.

Camp Night Outside

My family always loves to go camping, so why not set up a tent and camp in your backyard. Getting your teen involved in setting up or helping build a fire will help keep them from their devices for a little while. 

One night we had a campout and prepared our whole meal on the fire and surprisingly my son loved it and enjoyed helping the whole time.

Of coarse don’t forget the marshmallows to roast over your fire!

Movie Night

If you can’t make it to the theater, why not turn your living room into one! Make a concession stand with popcorn and candy treats and throw a bunch of blankets on the floor to enjoy some great movie time.

I love a throwback movie night, where I dig through all my old DVDs and find some good ole classic movies to watch.

Game Night

You can never go wrong with a family game night. There is always so much fun to have playing games.

Some of my family favorites are…

  • Monopoly
  • Clue
  • Twister
  • Scene it
  • Family Feud

Get the games and snacks and play all night!

DIY

So my son loves to make fluffy slime, you know with the glue and shaving cream, it is extremely messy but if it gets him off the couch I am all for it.

There are less messy DIYs you can try with your teenager.

  • Bath Bombs
  • Paint Pottery
  • Jewelry
  • Candle making
  • Soap making

Anything hands-on to keep them busy!

Gardening

Its that time of year to start those gardens and you have a free worker at home for three weeks. I love putting my son to work!

He actually likes gardening and planting his own veggies and its great exercise.

Cooking Lessons

While your cooking the millionth meal for your teenager, why not get them involved. Start teaching them how to use the kitchen.

Here are some great beginner meals or snacks.

  • Homemade Pizza
  • Homemade mac and cheese
  • Grilled cheese
  • Homemade Chicken Fingers
  • Lasagna
  • Spaghetti

Have fun in the kitchen!

Read!

Lastly and most importantly keep them reading! Reading is a great way they can keep those brains working.

You can make it a family time as well while you all read together.

Here are some great books for Middle School-aged kiddos.

 

  • Bridge To Terabithia  

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  • Where the Red Fern Grows

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  • A Wrinkle in Time

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  • Tuck Everlasting

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  • Little Women

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  • The Secret Garden

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  • Harry Potter and the Chambers of Secrets

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I hope some of these suggestions help with getting through these tough weeks ahead. Please stay safe these next few weeks and stay positive! We will get through this together!

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Mom at 15

I became a mother at the ripe young age of Fifteen. Now as an adult and mother of Two children, I sit back and think “wow, I really was still a baby, having a baby”. I see my children at the same age I was when I was pregnant and think to myself “There is no way they could raise a baby, they are still so young and innocent”. I guess that is most likely how my mom felt seeing her baby girl pregnant at Fourteen.

I was not the town slut, I actually became pregnant my first time having sex. Although once you become a mom at Fifteen, you somehow become the small town whore.

I know a lot of people judged my mother for allowing me to become pregnant, she even lost friendships because of what I did. In reality, it was not her fault at all. She was a single mother, working 12 hour shifts in a Factory to provide for me and could not always watch me 24 hours a day. She trusted me, and now that I am an adult, I appreciate how much she trusted me and hate that I broke her trust.

Even though my mother was clearly disappointed in me, she did not leave me all alone to raise a child. She was there for me through every Doctor’s appointment, Lamaze class and delivery. She insisted I go back to school to finish getting my high school diploma, and she stayed up with a crying baby, so that I could rest for school.

I am not sure I could have done it without the support of my mother. Especially when at delivery there was a medical mistake that took place to cause my baby to start having seizures. She had to stay in the NICU for Two weeks after birth. As a child myself, I had no idea what was going on. I never thought anything could go wrong with your baby at birth.

After countless Doctor appointments, we learned she had Cerebral Palsy. I could not accept it. It took years of taking her to different specialist, and they all had the same outcome. She will never walk. My heart broke each and every time we heard those words. I finally accepted the fact that my daughter was special and I would do everything it takes to give her a normal life.

I regret the time I was in denial about her disability. It was wasted time.

It was not easy at all being a mom at 15, I had to see all my friends growing up and having normal lives. My sleep overs with friends now included a baby crying. It was challenging to say the least.

I would never suggest anybody become a mother at 15, but I believe that God blessed me with that sweet girl early in life because she would need me for a long time.

All you young moms out there, don’t give up. It gets easier, and you can still raise a baby and fulfill your purpose in life.

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Special Needs Mom Life

As a special needs mom, we never want to talk about the hardships we experience or the exhaust we feel, because we feel guilty for complaining. I mean our children have to go through so much hardships and experience so many struggles in life, why should we complain about what we do for them?

After 20 years of being a special needs mom, I think it is good to let it out. Express your anger and fear for your child and admit the exhaustion you are enduring. We do it all because of the love we have for our child, so it is okay to feel emotions and talk about your struggles.

Here is my life as a special needs mom.

* The Future scares me

As a special needs mom, the future can be scary. What happens to our children when we get too old to care for them? What happens when we pass away? It can get a bit overwhelming when you sit and think about the future. You cannot just live day to day because planning for your child’s future is so crucial. 

* Schedules change day by day

With a special needs child you cannot always have a definite schedule for your week, or make plans for activities because our kiddos get sick so quickly. I have had to cancel so many plans because Ciara suddenly became sick. Not too mention the chance of having a social life is slim.

* We have to Fight

With a special needs child you will learn to fight for your child. You have to fight Doctors to diagnose your child, or to treat your child. You have to fight insurance companies to get equipment or medicine your child needs. You have to fight for everything all while fighting your child to do these things we fight for them to be able to do.

* Complete exhaustion

There are times I am mentally and physically exhausted I just want to curl up in bed and sleep for days. After lifting Ciara all day, sometimes my body hurts so bad and tells me I cannot to this anymore. But I get up the next day ready to do it all again.

* Sadness

I feel sad at least once a week for the life Ciara will never have. When I watch her struggle to do simple tasks, when she tells me she wants a baby one day. She will never know a normal life and I so badly want to give her everything she desires, but there is only so much I can do.

* I thank God for her

Everyday I thank God I am able to be her mother. I thank God I am able to take care of her and give her what she needs. I thank God that I was chosen to be the mother of such an amazing person.

At the end of the day there is a lot of tears, pain and exhaustion, but it is all worth it! I know every special needs mom would agree that these special people inspire us to be better and show so much strength and courage. When I am at my weakest point, all I have to do is look at Ciara’s smile and know that this is all worth it and I wouldn’t trade her for the world.

 

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I am Thankful for the Mess

Here lately I have been in a bit of a mom funk. You know where you feel as if your life is defined by that pile of dirty laundry or that sink full of dishes. It feels as if my life is overcome by a house that needs cleaning everyday and people need to be fed everyday. The mom funk can consume you and make you feel like curling up in a ball in bed and crying, until the kids or husband need something.

So as I sat wondering if there was more to life than this mess I have to clean everyday, and I find myself Thankful for this mess of a life. I think about a life without this mess. A life without my kids and my husband. That life seemed very sad and lonely. So this Thanksgiving here is what I am thankful for in my life.

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*I am Thankful for the laundry

I am thankful for the clothes I have to wash each and everyday, because that means that I can provide clean clothes for my family to wear.

 

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*I am Thankful for the house I get to clean

I am Thankful to have a home that I can keep clean for my family. Even if that means sweeping, mopping and cleaning nasty toilets.

 

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*I am Thankful for the meals I get to cook

I am Thankful my family does not have to go without food and I have the opportunity to cook for them, even if they do complain.

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*I am Thankful I am a mom

I am so Thankful I get to be a mom. Even if it means non stop Doctor Appointments, School Meetings, bath times and being a mom taxi. I love being a mom! I cannot imagine my life without my little mess makers.

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*I am Thankful for my Husband

I am Thankful that my husband gets up everyday and goes to work to provide for us, even if he doesn’t seem to know where the laundry room is or how a dishwasher works.

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*I am Thankful for me

I am Thankful that I find the strength everyday to get up and face life head on. I may not always want to, but I do what I gotta do each and every day.

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Of coarse there is so much more I am Thankful for in my life, but these are my blessings in life I may take for granted.

Be Thankful for the messes in your life.