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Don’t Let Your Past Define You

Recently I have noticed the younger generation making excuses for the way they behave.

Blaming every little thing they have encountered in their past for the bad decisions they make.

If everyone let their past dictate their future, we would have very little successful people in the World.

I know for me, I could sit here feeling sorry for myself for the trauma in my life.. but I chose to rise above my past to have a better future.

I see kids these days cutting theirselves because they’re parents divorced.

I see kids turning to drugs and alcohol and blaming the World for their problems.

Choosing a life of crime because they think everyone owes them for the life they were given.

I wish they all could know that the decisions you make follow you for the rest of your life, and can ruin their future.

I know I am not exactly where I want to be in life, but I never let my past define me.

I have an alcoholic father who was physically abusive to my mother and mentally abusive to us all.

My brother committed suicide when I was 5.

I had a baby at 15 and encountered a medical mistake that caused brain damage which led to her having cerebral palsy.

I could go on and on about the devastation in my life, but I choose to think about all the good in my life.

I didn’t turn to drugs or alcohol. I didn’t live a life of crime.

I live everyday for my kids, to give them a better life and to show that I did not let my past control my future.

That doesn’t mean that I never think about my past, and I do suffer from depression and anxiety.. but I am learning to live life to the fullest and enjoy every moment I have on this Earth.

I know there are so many successful people out there that endured even more than I in their past. They rose above it and decided to make a better life for theirselves.

If you or someone you know is going through traumatic events, I encourage you to get help. Find a counselor that can help you talk about the pain and learn tools to overcoming your trauma.

Life is hard and there will be ups and downs. You just have to be strong. All the bad in life does not have to define you.

I know for me, everything I have ever went through has made me a stronger woman and more determined than ever to have a better life and for my children to grow up happy.

You can have a better life too, stay strong and don’t let your past define you for the rest of your life!

By Jennifer Cotton

Hi YA'LL!
Welcome to Perfectly Imperfect Plus Life! I started this page so that I could share my journey to loving myself.
I am a plus size mom of two wonderful kiddos. Ciara is 19 and Leland is 13. They are my world! I am also married to the man I began dating when I was 16! It has been a long and bumpy road but I think we are getting a hang of this married stuff.
I have been overweight for most of my life and I don't think I have ever truly loved my body the way it is. So I am starting this journey to self love and I hope that I can have others to join me a long the way!

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