Have you ever felt tired of the mom life? Feeling as if the only thing you do in life is take care of everybody else?
Then you have the mom guilt, for feeling these feelings of mom burnout.
You are not alone!
For the past month I have felt the mama blues, and find it hard to just be happy.
I wake up everyday to the same messes in my house. Dirty clothes on the floor, dishes in the sink, laundry to wash and fold. Then I walk past that bathroom mirror with toothpaste splatters across it and think ” why should I even clean it, it will be dirty again tomorrow.” Then I spiral into a World of self pity.
I start to wonder if this is all my life will ever be, cleaning the toothpaste off of the mirror for the rest of my life?
How do you overcome these feelings of emptiness and self pity?
I have thought about this a lot here lately. I don’t want my kids to remember me as the crazy, depressed mom, that at time holds resentment towards them for having to be a mom 24/7.
I want them to remember me as a fun, happy mom!
So, what do I do about this?
I have complied a list of what I am going to try to get my life out of the gutter and stop the Mom Burnout.
This is so important! We moms forget to have “me time“. We focus so much energy on doing everything for our families so that they can be happy, we forget about our happiness. Believe me there is no happy home without a happy wife/mom.
Whether you read a good book or you binge a new series on TV. Take the time everyday to do something you want to do.
I hear so many good things about that thing called exercise, but I never just take the time to do it. Okay, it may be a little laziness on my part, but I think I am ready to start exercising this frustration away.
More Friend Time
It has occurred to me that I cannot remember the last time I had a Mom night out with friends or even a lunch date with a friend. I get so consumed in life, I forget I have friends. Remember your friends ladies, support each other and have more friend time.
This kind of goes with “me time”, but I am going to find a hobby that I enjoy. I use to enjoy baking, but now I do it so much for my family that I don’t enjoy it as much.
Find a hobby that does not benefit anybody but YOU!
It is okay for us moms to be selfish sometimes! We give so much of our time to our family, why not do more for yourself. Go shopping just for stuff for you, get your hair done, get that pedicure or massage you have been wanting.
If you don’t think of yourself sometime, you feel resentful to your family and that leads to that mom guilt.
Teach Your Family to Help More
This is a tough one for me. I have been guilty of not making my family do more for their selves . I would rather pick up the laundry myself and not argue about it, but my family DOES need to help out more.
In the end they make not like me as much, but they will show more respect for all the things that I do for them.
Enjoy Family Time
After I take some much needed mommy breaks and think about myself for once, I am hopeful I can get back to enjoying time with my family. We do all this for them anyways, might as well enjoy every minute with them.
I am looking forward to beating the “mom funk” and getting back to the mom and wife I want to be.
I hope some of these mom tips can help you if you feel the mom burnout coming on.
Don’t forget to give yourself a break and don’t feel bad about the mom burnout, it happens to the best of us!