My Favorite Halloween Memories

Halloween has to be one of my favorite holidays! Not because I am a devil worshiper or I am gothic, but because it’s fun and there is less stress involved in Halloween.

I love all the memories I get to share this time of year with my kids. Halloween means visiting the pumpkin patch, watching spooky movies, decorating your house all spooky and getting to dress up as anything you want!

I could go on and on about Halloween, but I’ll share my favorite Halloween memories with my family over the last few years.

All recipes for the sweet treats can be found on pinterest.

The best memories are made in the kitchen!

Spider web pancakes

Just make some pancakes, melt some icing, add food coloring and let your kids make a spiderweb with black food coloring and a toothpick!

Monster tacos and burritos

Witches brew (broccoli and cheddar soup)and bread broomsticks

Beef stew with cat biscuits

If you have Halloween cookie cutters you can make any shape biscuits to go with your stew.

Hocus Pocus Brownies

We made these tasty brownies while we watched the hocus pocus movie!

Shepard’s boo pie

Snake sandwich

This is a family favorite! Just get refrigerated pizza dough, roll it out, add honey mustard, lunch meat and cheese. Melt butter with some food coloring and brush it onto your snake, add a bell pepper tongue and eyes and pop into the oven.

Jack o lantern quesadillas

The kids love making the quesadilla faces!

Homemade spooky pizzas

You can literally do so much with pizza. Pizza mummies, ghosts and Jack o lanterns!

Of coarse, I have tons of family memories like carving pumpkins, going to fall festivals and trick or treating but the all time favorite Halloween memory was last year at Disney world!

Happy Halloween to you all and make sure to make lots of memories!


Make Your Own Rules

Having a Special Needs child comes with its own set of difficulties. There is no rule book for how to raise a child with disabilities. Books about reaching children’s milestones do not apply to your child’s specific special needs.

Even learning about your child’s diagnosis does not help prepare you, because every disability is so different. For instance, Ciara has Cerebral Palsy and cannot walk or talk, but there are others with CP that can walk and talk normally. So finding the right information or help, can be exhausting.

I have learned that we have to make our own parenting rules and go by our own knowledge.

After 21 years, I am still learning about Ciara. I am still trying to figure out what I am doing and questioning if I am doing the right things for her.

I thought I had everything figured out and then..she became an adult! I thought getting her through school and puberty was my most difficult challenges. I was wrong. Now, I am learning how to transition her into adulthood and prepare a future for her. I feel as if her whole future depends on the decisions I make now for her.

There is no manual to tell us what to do to prepare our kids for the future, so we have to what we feel is best for our children.

On top of all the stress of raising a special needs child, there is always judgment and pressure coming from professionals. “What are you doing for her future?” “What is your next step?” The questions never stop coming! Seriously, I don’t know what I am doing with my life, then I have to tell them exact plans for my daughters future!

People never stop judging, you just have to get past all the questions and realize you are doing whats best for your child. People can make you feel like you are not doing enough for your child, but you are. You cannot completely exhaust yourself trying to be perfect, you just have to do what you can do.

There was a point in my life where I let Ciara’s disability control my whole life. Everything I did in my life was directed towards Ciara. I was was consumed in therapy appointments, Doctor appointments, special needs conferences, and lots of research.

I still do what needs to be done for her, I just don’t let it consume me. We have a life outside of her disability and we also have a nice balance of special needs activities. I feel she is happier now that I am not obsessed with her disability. She is not reminded constantly of her disability and it helps her to feel more normal.

People may judge me that I don’t have her in tons of therapies and Doctor appointments to consume our weeks, but I make the rules and do what is best for my family.

She still sees her Doctors when she needs to and I am still working on preparing for her future, but we are going to enjoy life in the process.

Make your own rules for your special needs child. Do what you think is best and forget about the judgments and questions. You know your child better than anybody, so you will make the best choices.

Don’t let your child’s disability consume you, enjoy life with your special needs child.


You are Strong

Lately, there has been so much going on in the World. Covid, Presidential debates, racial hate and just stress everywhere you turn. Plus, you add the daily life stress and it is enough to turn any sane person insane.

I have seen so many broken women right now in this hard time. I just want to share a story of strength to show you all that you are stronger than you think, and you can get through this.

I am a very blessed woman. I was blessed to have been raised by an amazingly strong woman, my mother. All my strength comes from her and I am proud so say that I am a strong woman.

When I get down and feel like I cannot find the strength to carry on, I think about all the hardships my mom faced and overcame.

My mom came from a poor family and going to school was actually a luxury for her. Going to school meant no work for that day.

No matter her struggles in life she made a point to always keep her Faith in God.

She married in her early twenties and had two beautiful boys. Her husband cheated on her repeatedly. She gathered her strength, took her boys and moved to Waco for a fresh start. She was now a single mom in a new city, working in bars to take care of her family.

She meets my dad and soon after they get married. She endures Four miscarriages before finally giving birth to me. My dad is an alcoholic and would get very mean. My mom was hit many times. Nights were scary after the bar closed because we never knew what he would do when he arrived home. She always kept me safe, even if we stayed in a hotel for the night.

My brother committed suicide when he was 16. That had to be the hardest time of her life, but I remember seeing a strong mother taking care of her 5 year old daughter. I know she had to be dying inside, but my mom stayed strong. She stayed strong because she knew I needed her.

My mom worked 12 hour shifts in factories to provide for me, and to get us away from my dad.

She went back to school at 56 and got her degree as a sleep technician. She was great at her job and was able to buy herself a new house. She retired last year.

Now, she has been battling health problems, but I still see that strength in her eyes. She will always be the strongest woman I know.

So, all of you who think you are not strong enough, you are!

If you are scared to leave an abusive relationship, you can, you are strong enough!

If you are scared to go back to school, or make a career change, you can do it!

If you are facing a lot of hardships, you can get through this, you are strong enough!

You can get through anything because you are strong women! Stay strong!


Social Distancing Halloween Fun

Who says you can’t have fun while staying safe and social distances??

The Covid-19 pandemic has affected and changed our lives in so many ways. Why not let the kiddos have some fun and pretend life is back to normal for one night.

Halloween is one of my favorite nights of the year. Getting to dress up, carve pumpkins and watch all the scary movies I want! I cannot imagine a year without getting to celebrate Halloween.

I ran across some really good ideas off of the Oriental Trading site, that I want to share so that maybe everybody can still enjoy that one night a year it is acceptable to dress up crazy and be a little spooky.

Candy in the Bushes

How cute is this idea! Just get some clothes pins and hang candy all in your bushes for kiddos to come up and grab one, or two.

Set up a table with treats in your driveway

Decorate a table with a spooky Halloween tablecloth and add some cute Halloween cups filled with individually wrapped candy. The kids can just grab a cup and go!

Candy Graveyard

How fun is a candy graveyard!! You can pick up some graveyard decorations from Oriental Trading, or even make your own. Just make it super spooky and add some candy, kids will love searching your front yard graveyard to find yummy treats.

Neighborhood Trunk or Treat

I really wish I lived in a neighborhood, I seriously have 3 neighbors on my road. This idea sounds like so much fun! You can have fun decorating your trunk all Halloweenish and back it up to end of your driveway, and let the kids just run from trunk to trunk piling up on the candy!

Boo Bags

I do this every year for the few neighbors I have. I just find some cute Halloween bags or buckets and fill them with special Halloween treats and leave them on my neighbors door steps with a special “You Have Been Boo’d” sign to go in their window. You could also just have Boo Bags set out for kids to come up and grab.

Scary Movie Marathon

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Okay so this is my kind of activity. My kids are older and done with trick or treating, so a scary movie marathon would be a fun night with my kids. You could even set up an outdoor movie marathon for your neighbors to enjoy as well. Add some popcorn and you got a fun Halloween night.

Pumpkin Decorating

The ultimate Halloween tradition is Pumpkin carving or decorating a pumpkin. You seriously cannot have Halloween without getting your hands all slimy inside a pumpkin.

Haunted House

Why not set up a haunted house in your driveway or yard? My family likes to make a haunted trail in the creek behind our house for friends, family and neighbors to enjoy. Just make sure to practice social distancing and not have too many people at one time.

I have you have enjoyed these ideas for a safe, social distancing Halloween. And I hope you all have the best Halloween.

Stay Spooky my friends!👻